Quarantine blues/ relationship stressed?

Aweee I'm sorry to hear that. I'm hopeful that this thing will flatline and everything will be back to normal. Keep the faith and hang in there; we all will get through this together. Luckily for me we both have different schedules and we're excited to see each other each morning or evening. Focused on what brought you two together and what made you two fall in love.

I am sorry your fiance has been furloughed and this must be very stressful for you both. It wouldn't be surprising if this situation is causing him (and you) anxiety and/or depression. Financial strain is incredible stressful (and even more so while planning a wedding). Among other things, anxiety often causes irritability. I think you both need to talk about how you are feeling. Men can sometimes have a harder time expressing mental illness than women, but it is important to discuss how this is effecting your relationship. It does not mean that your relationship is not strong or that you won't get through this.

I suffer from generalized anxiety and when I am having an especially bad day I pick fights like crazy, I get moody, and become overly critical/ frustrated with my fiance. It helps to address this and acknowledge/apologize for it as soon as I catch myself doing it.

Once you address how you are both feeling, you can figure out some coping methods that work for you. When my fiance is anxious/stressed he likes to be alone. I like to exercise or sometimes I need him to let me be extra needy and I need quality time with him. So you and your partners might have different ways of wanting to deal with this.

I can also understand the cabin fever. I am still employed but don't have much to work on and I spend all day with little people interaction. My fiance is an essential worker and so when he comes home from work after dealing with people all day, he needs a break. But since I've been alone all day, that is hard for me. But open communication about how you're feeling can help this too.

Sorry for the tough situation you are in!

We're somewhat in the same situation. We've both been laid off til further notice but I'm currently still getting paid through my PTO. Sucks because I won't have any left by the time it's over but I'm getting more now than I would be getting through unemployment. Maybe to help out a bit financially, you can ask him to file for unemployment and he can put it toward groceries or any other necessities you may need.

We're both pretty irritable at times and for me it's mostly TV related. We only have one and he's constantly on it playing video games or playing out the same dumb shows that I once liked. It's like he refuses to watch anything else that he's never seen before or something he hasn't seen in awhile and it's so annoying. Especially since once he puts something on, he's automatically on his phone and it's like are you even really watching this?!?!? Like there's things I'd want to watch or play but it's like it doesn't even matter sometimes. Sometimes we'll even play some games together like board games or cards.

It gets old real quick but he also messes with music and he's a graphic designer so he does some freelance work. I take advantage of the TV when he's in the office working on all of that. Then when he's using the TV, I take over the computer and do as much of ANYTHING I can think of to pass some time so I'm not just sitting in the room watching him play all day. We have yet to have any actual arguments though. It's going to be a bit challenging but I'm sure you'll make it through.

I love my FH dearly, but he is can be very needy in the attention department. And I am now his primary source of attention, LOL. I sometimes have to very bluntly tell him to leave me alone for a few hours outside work so I can re-charge. I'm an introvert and need a LOT of down/alone time, which I normally get easily because I work primarily from home and he normally is out of the house for work.

Other than my bouts of over-stimulation from not having enough alone time, we are holding up pretty well overall.

Spend some time apart! Even if it means going for a solo drive or walk. Be glad you're not stuck at home alone.

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