qr code confusion

Can you register on the website link?

Your problem isn't the QR code. I'm also having people RSVP that way and there have been no issues. Even my 91-year-old great aunt was able to do it. People can get help from their kid or grandkid if they don't know how on their own.

The bigger issue here is, it's too early for invites. People don't know their plans 7 months from now. You sent your invites 11 months in advance, but what you should have sent was a save-the-date, which doesn't require a firm RSVP. You should have sent the formal invites this August, with a deadline in September. Since the invites are already sent, I would not bother people at this time. An RSVP given 7 months in advance isn't really worth much anyway. In September, reach out to your entire guest list again -- to make sure the yes people can still come, and get an answer from the rest.

View Quoted Comment 100% agree this is the primary reason you are not getting responses

Yep agree, the problem is that invitations have been sent too early. They should be sent out no earlier than 6-8 weeks before the wedding, with RSVP at about 2 weeks prior, or what your caterer wants for advance notice. There's no reason to send them out so early.

The QR code might be part of it, but no-one knows what they'll be doing in 7 months.

I put a QR code on my invitation but I also put “scan code with your camera” under it as a guide. Hopefully those that are confused can have someone help them out

You sent out your invites EXTREMELY early, you send save the dates early. Invites aren’t sent until roughly 2 months out.
People will not know what they’re doing so early and won’t dedicate themselves to your wedding yet. Your caterer won’t even need a count until like 1-2 weeks before. Even April is extremely early for an rsvp deadline for October! You will have people decline because they won’t say yes by the end of April

I’m also getting married in October and sent my save the dates in October as it’s 4 hours away so people know but won’t send invites or have an rsvp deadline until September

View Quoted Comment Agree with this. No one can predict their plans that far ahead. Even employers don’t finalize schedules before 4 weeks. Caterers and other vendors don’t finalize anything before 2-3 weeks before the wedding. All of your guests will lose and forget the information between now and then, in addition to feeling like you are B listing and looking for seat fillers if they decline.


Many tech savvy people don’t use QR codes. An equal number don’t know to use them and don’t care to learn. If something does not have a traditional url they can use instead, they will avoid it at all costs. Mom is correct that people will be more likely to rsvp to a traditional paper card. If online is non negotiable, you can also go on Withjoy.com or rsvpify.com for easy replies without the complicated QR codes with a due date no earlier than 4 weeks before the wedding.

Since covid, anyone with a smartphone trying to read a menu or check-in for an appt knows how to scan a QR code. If not, then they are a small percentage and can ask someone else. That's not the problem. The issue is that you're expecting people to tell you if they can come to your wedding 7 months from now. I think it's unreasonable. I mean, I can put it in my calendar, which is what save-the-dates are for. But I wouldn't feel comfortable committing to it until at least 2 months prior.