Pushy Vendor

When FH and I were looking at venues, I emailed quite a few places for quotes. One was a country club that I emailed on a whim and we didn't see ourselves choosing that venue anyway. The "quote" the coordinator gave me was not a quote at all but rather a price range of what other couples having our guest count would spend. There was no information about packages or anything and she wanted us to schedule a tour. That automatically puts a bad taste in my mouth because I'd rather have the information up front. When I told her that, she kept pushing to schedule a tour. I emailed her saying that the country club will not work for us and we narrowed our choice down to two other venues. Needless to say, she KEPT emailing me asking why I didn't want my wedding there. A few weeks later, I got an email from her that included a detailed quote for "my" bridal shower brunch.. There was another bride named Pearl and she sent the email to me and I'm assuming the real Pearl's mother. I sent her a nastygram stating I was thrilled we did not book with her and we would not be recommending her due to her harassing us and then sending personal information (finances, address, date of brunch, etc) to the wrong person. I never got a follow up email.

I don't understand why some vendors feel the need to be pushy. If they offer a great service for the right price, people will choose to work with them! I would rather spend a little bit more to avoid a pushy, unprofessional vendor.

UGH! Some vendors are the worst. I sent a lot of inquiries for officiants before we decided my brother would be perfect for the job. I'd been in contact with a couple and let them know we were no longer interested. Everyone got the message except for one who 4 months later continues to ask me if I need her. Like lady I told you, your services are no longer necessary. I've stopped responding at this point.

I had a DJ that was super pushy. I almost went with him until I called my venue, who the DJ said he worked with a lot, and asked about this particular DJ.

My venue manager just went "Oooooh....no."

He sent me over 20 emails asking me to follow up with him and set up a meeting, despite me telling him we went with another DJ which was HIGHLY recommended by the Venue and who has great reviews on every single platform I've looked on.

He told me I'd be disappointed with my choice and that they'd do a better job. I finally said I'm sorry, but we are not cancelling our signed contract with our DJ. I'm sorry you feel they will not do as great of a job as you say you will, but from what I've seen on reviews, I'm sure they'll meet our expectations. Thank you!

He stopped responding to me after that!

And no- it's none of his business who you decide to use as your vendors. Maybe they aren't doing so well? Lol

We met with the owner of a venue here. We absolutely loved it and told them we wanted to have our wedding there. We told them what date but that we weren't ready to officially book for a few months (didn't have the full deposit available yet) she agreed to put a "soft hold" on the date and let us know before it was booked with someone else. She then contacted us a couple weeks later asking if we were ready yet. I gave her a specific date when we would be (2 weeks later) she then proceeded to say oh well I have someone else interested. I know that's what we agreed upon her doing but we very much got the vibe that she was bluffing to hurry us. We rushed and got the money any way just in case. We met her that same day, signed contract in hand and everything. A week after booking we got another phone call saying oops I double booked you. Can we change your wedding date which btw was our anniversary. needless to say we found a new vendor and got our deposit back.

That's so weird he asked! I have a couple that send CONSTANT emails, even though I told them I would contact them when I'm ready to book.

Wow that is pretty intense. I did not have anyone as pushy as that but I did meet one vendor at a wedding show that still gives me the creeps. Seriously just got the creeped out chills thinking about him now eeeew

Ouch, I'm glad I haven't had to deal with that (yet). According to a google review, the owner is a psychopath so you dodged a bullet

When we were looking at different packages we decided to go a different direction and some of the vendors we're completely cordial. One did ask who we decided to go through, but I think its more for them to know who their competition is so they can refine their business to better meet clients needs. You are not obligated to answer him, especially if you think it will just cause a headache for you with more back and forth and potential criticism of your choice.

I will say it's not uncommon for vendors to ask who you chose instead and why you chose them. Many require it as part of their records and for improvement processes.