Pushy mil

Ah I had this issue with mine. She wanted 80 guests but I gave her 50-60. She didn’t pay for any of it.
I would tell yours that unfortunately there’s no more room or that she would have to pay to accommodate more guests if that’s what she wants

You and your FH need to come up with YOUR guest list and then decide how many people she can invite and then stick to that. Explain that you don’t want a large wedding and you really want people that have a special place on your life to celebrate with you (not people you don’t know). Good luck

“Our guest list is full. Which of your guests would you like us to take off the list to add Mr and Mrs Xxxxx? We cannot accommodate any more guests.” Don’t give her reasons, she’ll just find ways to argue around them. No is a complete sentence.

Agree with all of the above, but I also think FH should be the one to talk with her about any guest limits -- his family, his conversation. Good luck!

View Quoted Comment I second this. And FH should be involved in the explanation to her.

Especially if you are footing most of the bill, you have every right to say no to her friends. But it should be your fiance standing up to her, not you. Thats his family and he should be the one dealing with her.

Joining the choir of "no" being a complete sentence.

If she insists past repeated "no"s, be rude and flat out ask for more money. If you are paying for the majority, you get to dictate the guest list. Since she's offered to pay some... she can always pay more.

I think it depends on if she is paying for these extra guests. You said she is paying 1)3 of the cost. If she is paying for those guests to attend then you can't really tell her how to spend her money. This is why my husband and I paid for our wedding without of family because there are normally strings attached with someone else paying for your wedding.

Don't dictate who she can invite, but you can dictate how many. You and your FH need to come up with how many people you plan to invite and then give her a number: you can invites XX number of additional people. We don't have space for more.