Pushing wedding date back

I think, for the reasons you stated, that it's very smart to push the wedding back. Especially if you've been long-distance for a long time or most of your relationship, you don't truly know yet how you two will get along on a daily basis while co-habitating. My H and I lived together for several years before getting engaged, because at that time, we felt like us getting married was very likely, but we wanted to test the waters first by just living together. It's so important to do, as I think you know, and it really changes things, once you're sharing not only a space, but expenses as well.

Little fights once in a while are normal, NO couple is perfect. But if it's every day or every other day, that would definitely give me a bit of pause, and would make me want to explore that further before being legally bound to that person. So again, I think it would be smart to push back the wedding, and just try living together for a while to see if you can get through those normal growing pains of a relationship. Then once you see you're successfully co-habitating, you can talk about rescheduling the wedding. Also, as PP suggested, couple's or premarital counseling might be good thing to look into.

There's nothing wrong with moving your date out. If things are meant to be, they will still be there whenever you decide you're ready.

I also agree that living with someone is very important. It lets you know what you're getting into. Most divorces are about money, sex, or family- and you get a preview of all three when you live together.

If things are not 100% you should definitely push the wedding back. Having little disagreements about little details of the wedding is normal, but from what you are saying its much more than that. Definitely don't feel pressured either. No couple is ever perfect but if you go into the marriage not feeling 100% then that will not be a good start for you guys. Maybe wait till you guys can spend a little more one on one time. I am a firm believer in living with someone before marriage as that is where you learn the most about people.

Hopefully you can get it all figured out, and maybe this will be just a little bump in the road to your long life of happiness with him

Abso-freaking-lutely is it okay to push your wedding back

I think it's very good that you're taking the time to be logical and push the wedding back. I was upset about having a long engagement but it's worked out for the better. I know someone has already suggested premarital counseling, I too think it's a good idea. We're doing premarital counseling and I'm also seeing my own counselor. Make sure you feel all the way sure, and happy with you're decision to marry him. Don't let anyone else make that choice for you!