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Pushing Date Back

Destiera, on October 21, 2019 at 11:22 PM Posted in Planning 0 4

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I am under a lot of stress right now. My FH and I discussed our budget yesterday night and I just don’t know what to do. Our catering budget is lower than it should be, which scares me because we’re suppose to feed 130+ people. I have been trying to make adjustments to other things but I’m feeling so defeated. I am wondering if I should push it back later so I have more time to budget and not feel so stressed as I’m a full-time student, manage a store part-time, planning on moving into an apartment in the next couple months, and plan this wedding by myself. We’re not receiving any help besides on little things, but we are paying for our wedding in full. I already have the venue, the dress, the photographer, the cake, and bridesmaids&groomsman attire picked out. We’re still 150 days out till the wedding and it honestly seems so close that I can’t help but feel overwhelmed.

I don’t have any help except from my fiancé but that’s only financially and I honestly don’t know what to do. I can’t figure out what the best option is and we don’t want to elope because we both wanted a wedding. I just need some grounding to tell me it’s going to work out or some advice on if I should push the date back or not. I’m sure everything will turn out fine but at the same time, I’ve never planned a wedding before.

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Latest activity by Tara, on October 22, 2019 at 12:29 PM

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Jocelyn · on October 22, 2019 at 12:35 AM
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OK you need to breathe, you already have a lot done. Which is a really good thing and takes away some stress. I would suggest making a list of things that need to get done/things that you need to do. Have you contacted local caterers to find out their pricing to see if it matches your budget, don’t be afraid to contact as many as you need and Tell them what you’re needing. Try to prioritize your list to getting a few things done each week so you don’t feel so overwhelmed to get Everything done at once. you still have a lot of time before the New Year’s here. Maybe you should sit down and let your future husband know your concerns with the caterers budget and see if pushing your wedding back is the best option. But I still suggest reaching out to a few more caterers regarding pricing for what you’re wanting. Start making list,Check things off one by one but don’t feel like you need to get it all done at once,you still have time
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Tara · on October 22, 2019 at 11:31 AM
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Girl, take a deep breath and relax! Weddings are so stressful by nature. There's so much that goes into planning your big day, it's hard not to feel overwhelmed at times. I basically planned my wedding on my own too, in just 8 weeks! My husband found out he was going to be deploying. We had been dating for 8 years at that point and knew we wanted to get married (he had actually purchased a loose diamond a few months prior to getting the news of his impending deployment). He was away for much of the few weeks leading up to our wedding for training and different things. It was so stressful!
Money is the root of all evil, for real! But, a budget is necessary. You have much of the big things taken care, so you can relax. If you want to get married in 150 days, do it!!! All you really need is the two of you, your marriage license, and an officiant. That's all it will take to make it official! And at the end of the day, after all the dust settles, all that matters is the two of you and your commitment to one another. Everything else is just fun and makes it more special. It will all work out and come together perfectly, it will! If it would help, you can tell us all here (in this incredible network) what all you've done, might have left to do, and the breakdown of your budget. We're all here for you!
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Destiera · on October 22, 2019 at 11:32 AM
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Thank you! I really should take a chill pill, it’s all the stress getting to me now that I can’t help but feel defeated. My FH and I discussed it and so did my mom and I, it’s doable. I just need to relax. 😂
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Tara · on October 22, 2019 at 12:29 PM
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Exactly... you just need to relax!! I know it's so easy to get caught up in everything and stress about it. But you'll ruin all the fun and take away from your big day by stressing so much.
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