Pushing back wedding date? UPDATE, pushed it back a year.

You might want to read over your contract. I know my venue told me at the time of signing, even if we wanted to change dates, we would lost the deposit and have to pay another deposit on the new date. If you have to lose the deposit, would that be okay? I wouldn't talk to many people about your decision just yet. How does your FH feel about this?

Don't let people give you grief it's okay to be engaged as long as you want or need. This is your day! If they're not paying they shouldn't have a say but just ask the venue see what they say.

WE pushed our date back several times. Don't let people pressure you one way or another.

Whoever complained about other people being engaged for "too long?" It doesn't affect them at all. Be glad that they're apparently so looking forward to the wedding, and then tell them that saving up will allow you the perfect wedding you envision and not settle or skimp on anything (not that you owe them an explanation).

Pushing back the date to save up for it is smart, but as PP said, you have to check your contract to see what stipulations you face by changing the date.

I will look in my contracts, and see before contacting them when I get home this afternoon. I didn't know if anyone else had done this after already signing contracts or not. I don't really want to lose the deposits, but I think it might be better, because with trying to pay everything off I haven't managed to save much for the wedding. And I don't want to be stressed next year trying to pay for everything either. And don't want to expect money from anyone else, FH and I told my parents we were paying for everything ourselves lol

We pushed back our date, we were originally supposed to be getting married this October but FH was in a motorcycle accident two weeks after we got engaged and him being out of work for almost 6 months just left us strapped for money. We were able to move our date without having to re-pay our deposit, it transferred over. I'm so glad we did move our date too, it's given us a lot more time to enjoy being engaged while saving up for the dream wedding we actually want! Good luck!

I'm home from work now so I'm fixing to read some contracts and find out!

You can't really control what other people will think or say, but you CAN control how you feel and plan for the wedding you want. As long as it's what you both want, then go for it!

Keep us updated on your findings! It's smart to take care of your debts beforehand! Who wants to stress out over money and debt when they could be enjoying their new life as a married couple? My FH and I don't want our wedding to cause us any debt, so we set a date 20 months out from when we got engaged. My family is cool, and understanding about it, but FH's family has been pushy, but whatever! It's not their decision. Good luck!!

I read the contracts and it said cancelling you wouldn't get a deposit but if you change your date you can just transfer the deposit. I emailed both the venue and the photographer and the venue replied and said it was fine as long as they had the date open and the photographer hasn't yet responded so I think it will work out hopefully! I feel a little less stressed about it already!

I pushed back mine. FH and I originally wanted to tie the knot in March 2017, but after looking at costs, I wanted to wait to save more so we pushed it back to June 2018. For financial reasons only since we are paying for it ourselves. Best decision- hands down - for us

We got engaged 11/15/15 and we're going to get married 11/15/17 but I'm thinking of pushing it back to 2018. That would give us another year to save and work things out.

You have to do whatever is best for you and your fiancée. As long as the vendors are ok with it and willing to work with you, you should be good. I didn't want to wait to get married until 2018, but after we talked about it, it was the best decision. Nothing wrong wth a long engagement. It definitely allows you to save and have the wedding you've dreamed of without cutting corners like others spoke about

Well I spoke to both venders and they said as long as the date was available we were good to go, so they are checking to see if 11/15/18 is available!

Well, we officially pushed the wedding back a year, from 2017 to 2018, I feel a little sad about it but a little relieved at the same time to have the extra year to save and pay debts off.

We pushed our date back by 6 months from when we first started discussing wedding dates, but we hadn't booked anything by that point. Glad to hear you were able to come to a decision!

I think it is a great idea. You are still going to have a beautiful wedding but, you wont have the stress of the money.

We were lucky that both contract we've signed so far allowed us to change our date without losing our deposits.

So, instead of getting married in November, 2018, you want to push it back to November, 2019? It's worth a shot with your vendors. It's not like you're asking to push back a November, 2017 date.

As far as the engagement comments, if people are that invested on seeing you married sooner rather than later, they can pay off your debt or pay for the wedding. Otherwise, it's a case of mind your own business.

I pushed it back to 2018, it was a 2017 wedding. I just already changed the date on here @centerpiece. We were getting married 11/15/17, but we moved it to 11/15/18, I emailed back and forth with both venue and photographer yesterday and they said as long as the date was open that would be fine, they could transfer our deposits to the new date.