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Dedicated October 2019

Public Invite Questions

M, on April 21, 2019 at 10:00 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10
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We’re having a small wedding with big families so I’ve gotten pretty good at telling friends and coworkers we’re keeping it small in person. I don’t, however, have any idea how to handle it on social media. The same girl who I haven’t seen or even spoken to in 7 years comment a year ago when we got engaged that she hopes she’s invited. Now recently she commented on a post saying her invitation must’ve gotten lost in the mail. She’s not invited but invites haven’t even gone out yet! I can’t tell if she’s being funny or serious but it’s public for my friends and family to see. I can not imagine commenting something like this myself so I’m at a lost on how to handle it. I’m not sure if I should comment back, talk to her privately, or ignore it completely?

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Latest activity by CDickman, on July 7, 2019 at 12:31 PM
  • Victoria
    Super May 2019
    Victoria ·
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    I would just message her. When people comment publicly on mine I direct message them.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    I would ignore it.
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  • M
    Dedicated October 2019
    M ·
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    I’m thinking that’s what I’ll be doing. Trying to find the best wording to avoid an unnecessary argument with someone I don’t even know anymore.
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  • Rachel
    Super May 2019
    Rachel ·
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    I've had a few people do the same, we're also having a small wedding. I just send them a direct message and let them know. I haven't had any issues.

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    Judith ·
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    Either ignore it or send a private message. Do not do anything on a page open to others.
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  • Stephanie
    Dedicated November 2019
    Stephanie ·
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    I would delete her comment and address it privately. Also, don’t post about your wedding because it will continue to happen.
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  • Kimberly
    Beginner February 2020
    Kimberly ·
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    I agree with Stephanie. I might be running into the same issue here soon. I'm keeping my wedding off social media due to the fact my fiance has a massive family and I'm inviting like 17 people total compared to his 120 person family.
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  • Kristen
    VIP June 2020
    Kristen ·
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    The only wedding related post I ever put in social media was a picture when we got engaged. I deleted people’s comments when they said something about being invited. I also have it set where people can’t post on my wall without me accepting the post
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  • M
    Dedicated October 2019
    M ·
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    It was an anniversary post where I mentioned getting married. I don’t intend on censoring my life because people feel entitled to an invite. Talked to some family and decided I’m ignoring it and changing my settings moving forward where I have to approve first. It shocked me at first because it seemed so bold to assume after not speaking for 7 years but truthfully, it doesn’t matter. The people that act this way, I never run into and probably won’t again being that I don’t live in my home state.
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  • CDickman
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    CDickman ·
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    I would message her say she is not invited we are also keeping all wedding stuff with invites off social media’s
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