PSA: Significant Others vs. Plus Ones

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Super relevant. Good post!

And if you don't extend plus ones to single people and one of those single people find the self in a relationship the invite should be extended to that new SO.

Amen to all of this. It's my personal pet peeve when people confuse plus ones and so's. Your cousin's boyfriend, co-workers husband, or moh's fiance are not plus ones.

I agree with this 99% of the time. My 21 year old cousin is an an emotionally abusive relationship. Damn straight her girlfriend is not being invited to my wedding. She is rude, and mean to my cousin. Since dating her my cousin has gained 50lbs and been put on anxiety meds. I have been in her position before so I know what she's going through...But you had better believe I'd rather have her annoyed with me for not inviting her gf than have her crying at the wedding or have her gf start a scene for whatever absurd reason she comes up with.

Now, as far as @FutureRand said, I agree that if someone on the list starts dating someone you should make every effort to find a way to invite their new SO. However I also think that if invites have already been sent it is okay to 'b list' THE new SO and let your guest know that if there is space they will be allowed to bring them. I would never expect to bring a guest(SO) to an event if we started dating AFTER the invites went out!

If you don't know if a guest has a significant other, you aren't close enough to invite them.

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MrsK- I agree that if it's after the invites have been sent out that's a different situation and should be handled on a case by case basis.

This isn't really related, but part of a PSA.

Unless you are getting married on an island, the word is spelled aisle!

You walk down the aisle.....

An isle is a small island.....

Rant over.

One exception I would add to this is OOT guests and/or guests who may not know anyone else at the wedding.

I actually did not know this! I was just going to do plus ones! Thank you!! Bump!!

I agree with KaitieK. We are not giving single guests plus ones, but if we had invited someone who was single and didn't know a single other guest we would have given them a plus one.

@Melissa B, I mean...How upset would FBIL be if she wasn't invited? Personally I wouldn't invite her if she is actually a threat to people at your wedding...And I consider having contagious things and a record like that to be a threat.

Now, if she was an addict in recovery I wouldn't hold that against her....But believe me..I am an addict (4 years clean and sober) and when I was using I probably wouldn't have thought twice about stealing envelopes from a wedding (I was a shitty person while I was using..I'm embarrassed of the stuff I did. I am not that person anymore).

Inviting my cousin and his wife, plus their two "kids". One of the kids is 18 but still lives at home. I know he has a girlfriend because I've seen it on Facebook, but I've never met her. Also not particularly close to this family. Sending one invite for the family of 4. Do I include the girlfriend in that case??

Everyone over the age of 18 should receive their own invitation. Him and his girlfriend would both be invited by name using a separate invitation from the parents and any younger sibling (who could all be listed on a single invitation).

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Celia makes such a good point! I had to point that out to my FH several times when he wanted to invite all his 'best friends' from high school. Does so and so have a girlfriend? Uh I don't know haven't talked to him in like a year. Oh okay. Not. Invited.

Bump. Everyone knows their loved ones best, but I get annoyed when people assume my life must be miserable because I gained weight.

Bump. My FH was invited to a wedding last year and I wasn't invited... now we are inviting them to our wedding and I'm still salty