Pros & Cons on a First Look

View Quoted Comment Lolol this cracked me up. Your mom is hilarious! I smiled so hard. You two’s relationship seems amazing!!

Have you ever heard of a first touch? Look it up on Pinterest! You can hold each others' hand while your backs are against a door and to make it extra special write cute notes to one another to read at that moment prior to the ceremony.. it'll calm your nerves, doesn't ruin the initial reaction of walking down the aisle, and makes a great photo op that's what I'm planning for my big day!!

I too wanted to see my FHs reaction when I walked down the isle but me being such an emotional person knew I would lose it if I saw him tear up. So I wanted a first look as well but without giving up what I initially wanted.

I luckily came across an article where a women wore relaxed clothes while he was dressed up (him being under the assumption they would both be dressed up). So I was inspired to wear this cheesy eagles sweater that he thinks I threw away!

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In Jewish weddings, you see each other before anyway for the signing of the ketubah (marriage contract) - I always wanted to do a first look because I think it's really wonderful to have a private moment together. As others have said, it's also very practical timing wise. I want to be able to spend time with friends and family during cocktail hour, we can do photos before everyone arrives!

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We're planning to do a first look. At first I wasnt sure about it, but honestly I agree with some of the other parties in this discussion.. it gives you both a private moment and it's great for photos for catching that raw emotion. I don't know about your groom, but when mine is emotional- he has trouble forming a sentence. I'm partially hoping the first look will help so he can at least make it through our vows without being silent. LOL

View Quoted Comment Ha! Ha! That is hilarious!! We aren't doing a first look because we love tradition. We want that emotional "first look" as I'm walking up the aisle. I'm walking by myself ( my Daddy is ill.. I'm from the South), sure hope I don't slip. We are also saying old-fashioned vows from the 1500's. Lots of thee's and thou's and " pledging my troth."

The only reason I thought of doing a first look was to get the wedding party photos taken care of so we are able to mingle with our wedding guests during cocktail hour and we weren't the couple that took forever to take wedding photos and left our guests waiting. I was once at a wedding where we say for almost 2 hours while the bride and groom and wedding party went to take pictures and went on a "short" bar crawl. With kids especially, that's too long to be waiting. We have opted to get as many pictures done before the ceremony without us together so that the ones that are left are of us together and with our families.

There are two kind of first looks. Before the pictures in the morning and also as you’re walking down the isle. I didn’t know the isle one was so popular, because it limites the morning pictures to almost none probably, but man, my FH and I are even battle to have the morning first look 😂 we really wants me to show him the dress, and I’m so tempted to. He showed me the ring before proposing so it’d only be fair haha. We’ll probably end up waiting till the morning of though. It’ll only be fair.

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I think that sums up my mom's thoughts too. I'll leave it to the FH though since he's super camera shy.

I want a first look mostly because I want that moment where he sees me to be private, just between us. Our wedding is for us and no one else needs to see it. Plus, it gives us time together before our time is monopolized by friends and family and running around to everyone during the reception. Plus, you still have to do family and bridal party photos after the wedding and typically those are first and the bride and groom photos are saved for last and by that time you are tired of photos and want to get to the party. Plus, that's just less time you make your guests wait. That's one thing I hate about weddings. Waiting so long between ceremony and reception.

We're doing a first look for a number of reasons. We want a private, special moment together before all the whirlwind starts. I'm a huger crier and he doesn't like being in front of people, so I think this will help calm his nerves/settle my emotions. And then there is the practical aspect: get some photos out of the way before the ceremony and get to the cocktail hour sooner after family photos.

My fiance is my best friend, and I get nervous just thinking about not being able to see him the day of until we get married. We agreed on a first look and enjoying beautiful photographs before the wedding to calm our nerves and truly enjoy the moment instead of being a nervous wreck. BUT THAT'S JUST ME. I couldn't imagine NOT seeing him before walking down the aisle, cuz I'd be a blubbering mess haha.

They recommend maybe doing a quick hair change, or putting different accessories between a first look and walking down the aisle, so there are still little changes to surprise him, and make you feel just as beautiful. I was thinking of not having my flower crown on, or not having on all of my jewelry for the first look/no bouquet until the ceremony, and then go BOOM LOOK AT ME NOW haha

Just suggestions. I can't wait for a first look