Proper way to address save the dates

I've also been wondering about this

I'm not sure of proper way for all of you scenarios but my advice/ what we did

1. how long have they been dating a few years or a few months? If its been a few years I would say put her name on it. If it's been a short period of time address the save the date to him only.

2. We had this come up a few times. We only sent one save the date. I used the reasoning that they were magnets and people generally will only have one fridge. We didn't want children at our wedding so when addressing the save the dates even to family's we were specific, we just felt more comfortable doing it this way.

3. I don't see anything wrong with only doing one save the date per household

I probably broke all the proper etiquette rules but it felt right to us.

Check out Emily Post online. Best resource for etiquette

Good point A&E about the children... i assume one per household is ok and yes they will be magnets as well!

couldn't find anything on that website

Std are relatively new. I doubt you would offend anyone by sending one to the household. That's what I did anyway. Anyone over 18 will get there own invite plus a guest, but for the std, I only sent 1 to the family.

We did one STD for every guest/couple over 18, regardless if they were living at home or not. We also did our very best to find out all of our friend's/family's SO's names (no matter how "new" they were in the relationship).

The only problem with finding out the significant others name and address it to them is if it's likely to change. Unfortunately our list had one breakup, they got back together only to break up again and two divorces. At some point you can't keep changing it because you'll go nuts. Plus i wouldn't want to offend a new girlfriend with an exs name.

With that being said I was "guested" on an invite the fiancé got last year- we'd been living together for two years and dating for 7.

Thanks everyone!

I did everything you listed for mine. I figured one per household was sufficient and I did not address them formally. Invites follow proper etiquette rules.

We did STD magnets so it was 1 per household so I just addressed to anyone in the household lol The invitations will be a different story though.