Proper title for a wedding helper??

Honestly this just sounds like assigning her chores without giving her the honor of being a bridesmaid. If you want to ask her to do things for you then she should be a bridesmaid (regardless of even sides or not... that really doesn’t matter)

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I understand it sounding that way, but this is something I've seen in a lot of other weddings. Just none of those weddings had a program or website so I don't have a name to call it. She also may not accept to being a bridesmaid, if I were to ask her, because of her current financial status. I don't want her feeling pressured to buy attire or help fund a bachelorette or bridal shower. I should have specified she's offered to help as a gift to me, and I haven't needed additional help during my planning process but could use it the day of.

A host/hostess. I have some and they will be doing similar tasks.

Sounds like she is a really good friend and doesn’t really need a title but just to know how thankful you are.. I have a friend from work who is helping me out too because she likes to be crafty and gets excited for weddings. I told her that I don not expect a gift from her even though I’m sure she will gift regardless but I am getting her a gift to show her how thankful I am

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Ah I understand. I'd call her a hostess or an usher maybe? Or just don't list her with an official title. I'd definitely get her a small gift though.

I held this role in a wedding recently! My official title was the director - many vendors asked her who her director was and described it as a "Trusted aunt who helps keep the show running", so we eventually adapted the title to "Aunt of honor"! The bride did a phenomenal job incorporating me into the events as well, which made it still feel like I was a valued member of the party! Would highly recommend