I am planning a wedding and was trying to complete the guest list. Originally, it was going to be a small, intimate wedding with maybe 40 people but now my fiancé wants to invite twice as many so now I feel obligated to extend my invites to family who are distant. We are looking at a guest list right now where approx 75% of the guest belong on his side. I have a small family on my mom's side who are scattered between two states and only really reunite for funerals. I have been invited to all my cousins weddings so far with proper invites and went to most of them. I never knew my dad till his last days on this earth but he has a big family but all live far away as well.
The wedding will be in California - across the country for my entire mom's side of the family. I would be shocked if any actually made the journey for my wedding.
I feel like inviting a few people I met related to my dad would be a nice gesture and a way for us to build a closer relationship. They live a tad bit closer to where the wedding will be held.
Should I bother inviting all these people when this is the most of my family unit? I'm an only child of a single mom who comes from an incredibly small immediate family in my view.
If so what would be the proper etiquette for invites? Mail an invite to all their addresses? I liked this one idea I heard where someone mailed paper invites to immediate family and did e-vites to everyone else. Would it be ok to FB message an e-vite or would that be just too tacky? I also like the idea of doing some digital form of invites or RSVP to cut down on paper (people are going to toss them anyway right?).
Since most have families now and it would be a destination vacation for them I would welcome kids also.