Proper etiquette for vow renewal

Great idea!

According to what I've seen on wedding wire you're not having an "actual wedding" in the church. You're just renewing your vows. So I would edit that before they come in here and tear you up for your word choice. Just don't register and let people

bring if they're going to bring.

Awesome questions! Great ideas!

I would just not register and let anyone bring gifts of they want. However if you eloped recently for legal reasons and your family will consider this the wedding you can treat it as your "actual wedding" vow renewal rules are more for a year later if your families consider you married now.

Great idea to say no gifts. I'd print that right on the invite.

How long have you been married?

Your "actual wedding" happened when you had your actual wedding.

I did the same thing, now we are having a ceremony to celebrate this fall. Honestly, if you want to register for gifts, do it. If you want to call it a wedding, call it a wedding. My guests, I'm sure, will not be offended by what I decide to call it. Some people want to get married early so they can live like they are married- like getting a house together, living together etc., and weddings take time to plan. There is nothing wrong with that. Good luck!

I will!!

Actually there is something wrong with that. If you're already married, you're not having a wedding, you're having a vow renewal.

Registries for a vow renewal are a huge no-no.

Everything Hannah said is the WRONG thing.

Rosemary has the best advice here; considering she did this and followed etiquette and all.

@Hannah that is awful advice

Gosh, love all these ideas!

Everyone knows I'm easy on this one, but if people know you're married, and it's been a while, call this a 'celebration of marriage" . What you're having in the church is not a wedding, it's a renewal, or a 'blessing of marriage".

I'd need more info to have a better opinion....

I would say register for anything you need. Just don't mention it in your invites. I would register no matter what, especially if you didn't have anyone around the first time. Better to register than get 5 toasters. Just because you register doesn't mean you'll get those things but it might help anyone who wants to get you a gift.

Thank you Matt! And if she wants to, then absolutely.

Make sure not to call it a wedding ceremony but to use proper wording for a vow renewal or blessing of marriage. It is not appropriate to register for gifts or to have a bridal shower (that ship has sailed when you eloped). Some people will probably still bring you a card and/or gift, but its not appropriate to register.

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