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Problems with getting a hold of Family

Andrea, on August 1, 2019 at 12:02 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 6

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Hi everyone,

Basically, my FH's brother passed away tragically in 2011. He left behind a girlfriend and a daughter and an unborn son he wasn't aware of, unfortunately. My FH tries to keep in touch with them, but the girlfriend is very.... introverted and keeps to herself. It's hard to explain her demeanor. She was like this before FH's bro passed. So I think it's just her personality. Well, we wanted FH's niece and nephew to place a role in the wedding. For the the niece to be a flower girl (alongside our daughters) and for the nephew to be ring bearer. We've been trying to get a hold of her, to no avail. We've tried texting, calling, and FB messaging. Even trying to reach out to her with mutual associates. Nothing. She's read our messages and has not responded. I feel bad, because I really wanted FH's niece and nephew to be involved. But I don't want to feel like I'm just annoying them. Should I just let it go? Would love some insight. Thank you all

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Master December 2019
Cher Horowitz · on August 1, 2019 at 12:29 AM
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It seems like you've done everything possible to contact her. I would let this go, unfortunately. If she doesn't want to respond, that's on her!
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D · on August 1, 2019 at 1:40 AM
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I would try maybe 2 more times spaced over a couple of months then sadly let it go. I'm sorry it hasn't worked out so far.
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Andrea · on August 1, 2019 at 7:54 AM
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Hey,
Yeah. I've done all that I can at this point, and any further contact can seem harassing, LMAO! And it's weird because last year I had brought it up to her and she seemed fine with the idea. She said okay. But then our planning died down and there were a lot of changes. So a year later our planning is back in full speed and our wedding is in April, and it seems like she's dodging us this time around. So I really don't know what's going on with that.
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Master January 2021
Andrea · on August 1, 2019 at 7:54 AM
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Hey D,
Yeah, maybe I'll try in the new few months and if there's no response, there's nothing I can really do about it. Thank you
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Danielle · on August 1, 2019 at 8:38 AM
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Despite your good intentions, it sounds like she is not interested...and not responding is her way of letting you know that. Did you try to invite her to the wedding to? Not to be in it, but as a guest. That might help her feel more comfortable letting her kids be involved. Otherwise, I don't think there is anything else you and your FH can do.
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Andrea · on August 1, 2019 at 8:53 AM
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Hey Danielle,
Oh yes, she knows she would be invited. Of course, I'm far off from sending invitations. I did email my save the dates and she viewed it. Never got back to me in terms of address info for my guest list spreadsheet either. It's troubling. Yeah, what I'm getting from the situation is that she is not interested. FH is annoyed about it, but like you said, there's nothing else we can truly do. I know she's introverted and a kinda of... I don't know how to explain her personality. It goes beyond just being shy though. It's almost like.. antisocial. But still, I thought she would still be ecstatic about her kids being in the wedding.. I guess not. Oh well! Thank you so much for your input, Danielle
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