Post content has been hidden

To unblock this content, please click here

Dedicated October 2019

Probably stupidest question ever asked

Nicole, on September 4, 2019 at 5:00 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 19

Saved

Flag
Hide content

Please no laughing, but what is the etiquette on hair and makeup for a destination wedding? Here’s my question. I’m having 15 people total at my wedding 8 being woman and 3 walking down the aisle. Do I only ask the 3 woman walking down the aisle if they’d like their hair and makeup done and pay for them? Or do I ask everyone because lord knows we all deserve to look and feel beautiful, but have them pay if they choose to have it done? Please help, I’m a clueless bride.

Flag
Hide content

19 Comments

Latest activity by Lisa, on September 8, 2019 at 4:14 PM

Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on September 4, 2019 at 5:14 PM
Flag

Hide content
I wouldn’t ask every guest if they want to have their makeup done. That seems like a lot of work. I would just offer for your bridesmaids to have theirs done. You don’t necessarily have to pay for it unless you’re requiring it, but it would be very kind of you to cover that expense.
- Reply
Dedicated October 2019
Nicole · on September 4, 2019 at 5:17 PM
Flag

Hide content
Let me clarify. I am not having any bridal party and the people walking down the aisle are the 2 mothers and my soon to be step daughter who’s 20.
- Reply
VIP September 2019
Lauren · on September 4, 2019 at 5:19 PM
Flag

Hide content
I wouldn't offer it to everyone. 8 people getting their makeup done is 8 hours of work for 1 makeup artist.
- Reply
VIP September 2019
Yam · on September 4, 2019 at 5:25 PM
Flag

Hide content
I would only pay for your mom’s if she wants it. There’s no official bridal party, no obligation to pay for anyone.
- Reply
Super October 2021
Suzie · on September 4, 2019 at 5:33 PM
Flag

Hide content
If you don’t have a bridal party, I wouldn’t offer for anyone else. Maybe your mom, but only if you want.
- Reply
Master May 2021
Cristy · on September 4, 2019 at 5:34 PM
Flag

Hide content
If you can afford to pay for those ladies (moms and step daughter), that's a really nice gesture, and I think you could do that without much trouble. But I would first talk to your makeup artist, to make sure she can do that many people in the time allotted.
Even if you can't afford to pay for everyone, you could still offer the services to the moms if they want to pay for themselves. That's what I'm doing for my bridal party. I'm paying for their hair, and if they want the pro makeup, they can pay for that themselves.
But I would totally pay for your future stepdaughter, if you can.
- Reply
Master May 2019
Cyndy · on September 4, 2019 at 6:34 PM
Flag

Hide content
I would pay for my mom and if you can afford it maybe your future step daughter and MIL but not anyone else. If not ask them if they want it done and they can pay for it but I would still pay for my mom.
- Reply
Expert June 2025
Jessica · on September 4, 2019 at 8:52 PM
Flag

Hide content
Hair is usually a gift from the bride if you have money to spare. Makeup usually is not necessary for wedding party to be professionally. If they know how to do it on there own just have them do it. It saves you more money
- Reply
Master October 2018
MrsV1027 · on September 5, 2019 at 8:21 AM
Flag

Hide content
I would only ask the ones standing up with you. If your guests want their hair and makeup done they can figure that out. It's extra stress that you shouldn't deal with.
- Reply
Master September 2019
Sherry · on September 5, 2019 at 9:29 AM
Flag

Hide content
After reading your other comment that you don't have a bridal party, I would just have yours and your step-daughters HMU done.
- Reply
Master October 2019
Jolie · on September 5, 2019 at 10:27 AM
Flag

Hide content
Agree with everyone. No bridal party, you don't have to ask. I asked my mom and she said she'd do her own hair and makeup. Because of this I didn't ask my FMIL because it would be weird to just have her there getting ready with the bridesmaids and not both moms. You don't even technically have to pay if you are just giving them the option, but if you'd like to gift it for your mom you can.
- Reply
Savvy October 2020
Kimberly · on September 5, 2019 at 11:35 AM
Flag

Hide content
We aren't having a bridal either. I am going to ask both our moms if they would like to get their makeup done. I will be paying for it since they have helped so much.
- Reply
Legend July 2019
MrsD · on September 5, 2019 at 11:53 AM
Flag

Hide content
You don't have to pay for anyone if it's optional. I would open the option to all the women in the wedding (not women that are just guests) to have their HAMU done if they want, and tell them the price.
- Reply
Devoted November 2019
Heather · on September 8, 2019 at 12:29 AM
Flag

Hide content
Agree with everyone. I'm doing a destination wedding and I have 2 bridesmaids and my mom getting hair/makeup done. They have to start at 1pm for a 5pm wedding and that's even with 4 stylists. Your guests can be made aware that the service is available but make sure yours are booked as the priority.
- Reply
Legend March 2017
Pirate & 60s Bride · on September 8, 2019 at 12:44 AM
Flag

Hide content
You’re not obligated to pay but it may be a sweet gesture to pay for your step-daughters hair or makeup, if she wants. You can ask your mom & MIL if they’d like to get theirs done and let them know the cost.

I had a DW with 15 guests too! No wedding party. I got ready with my mom & sister, they both opted to pay to get their makeup done.

Where are you getting married?
- Reply
Super September 2020
Naikesha · on September 8, 2019 at 8:14 AM
Flag

Hide content
I personally would ask the step daughter as this can be a bonding time for you two. Or you can ask all 3 if your budget allows but definitely not everyone.
- Reply
Dedicated October 2019
Nicole · on September 8, 2019 at 3:10 PM
Flag

Hide content
View Quoted Comment
Pass-A-Grille-Beach in FL
- Reply
VIP November 2021
· on September 8, 2019 at 3:24 PM
Flag

Hide content
I would only have who is in the wedding get theirs professionally done, along with you.. everyone else can do their own or have theirs done on their expense
- Reply

Expert April 2021
Lisa · on September 8, 2019 at 4:14 PM
Flag

Hide content
I would just ask the people that'll be in the wedding. If anyone else wants it done professionally by your stylist I would 1st see if the stylist has the time and then inform the people that they have to pay themselves. Just make sure that you and the people in the wedding get styled first.
- Reply