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Jennifer
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Probably postponed shower presents

Jennifer, on May 8, 2020 at 12:03 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 3

I just don't know the etiquette here, and likely there isn't one because who's dealt with a world wide pandemic. So my bridal shower was scheduled for mid-June. I live in NYC though so even with things starting to think about relaxing, it's unlikely that's going happen. Even with a small guest list, it's just not possible to expect strangers to gather. The invites, which had been sent at the beginning of this, said to let the person in charge of RSVP's know your contact info so they can inform of possible changes of date because, ugh, 'rona. But ... since I live in Queens and the shower is in Manhattan, they also mentioned sending any gifts to my place directly even if the shower went as planned. Just to save my fiance from having to drive into Manhattan and filling our tiny car or trying to make multiple trips. So, today I received two gifts. Do I open them? Likely my shower probably won't actually happen til August/September now. If I open them do I sent the people who sent them a text or something to acknowledge the gift? I plan on sending thank you cards after the shower obv. whenever that happens, but since that may be far away .... Ahhhh I just don't wanna be rude. But also weird. My friends are easy, it's the aunts that I don't talk to as much (at all) or mom's friends. And would they feel like "um it's not your shower, why did you open them". I know I'm overthinking this, but I'd still like to hear other opinions.

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Latest activity by ASMini914, on May 8, 2020 at 8:36 PM
  • Nefetera
    VIP March 2015
    Nefetera ·
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    I would say if you going to postpone your shower then I wouldnt open the gifts bc you want your guest there while you opening the gifts that they given you. I know now ppl are doing "ZOOM VIRTUAL" bridal showers so they can still have it on there scheduled date which i find sooo cool. Just FYI....good luck
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  • Anna
    Super August 2020
    Anna ·
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    If guests had been asked to mail gifts to your home in Queens even though the shower was in Manhattan then there wouldn't have ever been a situation where you were opening them in front of the sender (pandemic or not). So no one is going to be upset that you have opened the gifts not at the shower since that was the plan all along. That's what I think anyways.
    If a guest saw that your shower was in Manhattan, but were asked to mail to Queens- I don't think they would have chosen to do that if they wanted to be there when you opened it.


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  • ASMini914
    Super September 2019
    ASMini914 ·
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    We had our shower out of state, a lot of people sent them from C&B (where we registered) directly to our house, some of them a month before the shower. I opened them, because 1) there was no where to store boxes that might be gifts and 2) since they were sent to my house the sender had no intention of watching me open them. I also sent thank you cards upon receiving/opening them, even though it was before the shower. I don’t think you have to, but when I did see everyone in person many commented that they enjoyed reading my note, and it was nice being able to acknowledge the gift and thank them right away! It also took some pressure off during the shower because I wasn’t trying to remember exactly what each person had already sent and thanking them in person!
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