Prewedding Depression

Nothing is wrong with you, but I think it's necessary to think deeper, maybe it's something not related to the wedding. And there is something about the wedding that subconsciously triggers your sadness

Read back your own words, hon. "Blue, depressed... Constantly trying not to cry.". That's not normal; you should get checked out. It's not related to any deficiency in your life; this is a mental health issue, and you can get help for it!

That doesn't sound like wedding related issues necessarily- the wedding might be a catalyst- but you should go see a therapist about your depression.

I'm sorry you aren't feeling well- depression is a bitch of an illness to deal with- I feel for you.

I think being a little down is probably normal but it sounds like something a little deeper like everyone else said.

I have no history of depression and this really only started very recently - actually after I started reading the forums on this site. I read so many posts where people are complaining about their parents or their sisters, friends.. just constant complaining.. Both of parents will be are gone and I know that is affecting the planning for obvious reasons. I actually want to be angry at those people but I'm just too damn sad to even get angry.

If you believe it's the forums then you should really just delete wedding wire. I'm not say thing that to be rude or anything. I felt the same way about things I saw on Facebook and it was really effecting me. I didn't understand it until I deleted social media all together and have really gone back to my old self

I was going to ask if it was some sort of nostalgia....

My father is barely in my life (he lives out of the country) and the most we talk is our birthdays through email. He left when I was around 7. I'm pretty certain I'll be feeling very very similar to how you're feeling now.

It hits me from time to time.

Not sure of your exact situation, but you and your FH have each other to rely on and you both can relate.

I hope you're able to find some peace... :: hugs::

I feel like I've been saying this a lot today but therapy is your best course of action if it's affecting you this deeply. Maybe it was kicked off by finishing wedding planning and you got the ending blues? (I get down when I finish a big, fun task and feel like I have nothing left to do).

Also, if the forums are bringing you down... maybe take a break? If not, we're here for you if you just want to get stuff off your chest and find support. Sending internet hugs your way.

Please see a doctor. Depression is a monster.

I'm so sorry! I definitely recommend seeing a doctor!

If you think that it might be the forms or social media all together, maybe take a break. (Not trying to sound rude.) I took a break from social media and didn't miss it at all. It was amazing actually. I enjoyed not looking at it. Maybe it'll help.

Ditto Brittany's comment. I stopped using FB when I was studying for the Bar and never looked back. I didn't like the gossipy person I became. As for her I use the info as caution tales for my planning.

You may be overwhelmed or over worked and need some time away from wedding planning. I know I did! I would be slow to jump to "you have depression see a shrink" if this is an isolated feeling to the last week or so and it resolves without reoccurrence.

However if t continues to linger you may be suffering from anxiety or depression and may benefit from finding a licensed counselor to talk with.

I know wedding planning was very taxing on my emotional health for awhile there so I had to step back and breath and relax some.

If you need to go talk to someone, do it soon. I will openly admit that therapy and anti-depressants make me better.

Like everyone said I would seek help from a doctor/therapist. Depression is very serious and it sucks. I'm sorry you're feeling down. I hope everything goes well for you!

Talk to FH and maybe it'll help work some of your feelings out, if you're still not feeling whole maybe look into a professional? Depression is a tricky thing, sometimes just getting something off your chest helps, like you've been harboring a secret that really isn't one. Planning a wedding can be so emotional in its own right and may have brought some unresolved issues or nostalgia to situations you may never have fully coped with.

On the flip side, not to make light of how you're feeling, but is it maybe you don't want the planning to be over? You've been so excited for the day and it'll be here and gone. Then you'll just be somebody's wife (as Monica from Friends would say.) Again, not trying to be rude, but maybe make you smile? I say it to my fiancée all of the time, but we're big Friends fans. Seriously though, I hope you feel better and you're able to work out whatever is troubling you.

Ugh.. Thank you for all of the kind words and advice. I do think it is a culmination of stress, missing my mom who passed, being laid off in the middle of all this and trying to make everyone happy. I went radio silence today and expected much different responses so truly I do appreciate the kindness.