Preteen neices in wedding

Not a fan of signs. I would just have them as flower girls if you don't want them to be bridesmaids.

Do you have programs? Maybe have them hand them out?

I think either would be super cute.

I'm not sure about programs. I'm thinking I'd rather save that money and not get them. Wedding is a year from today! I will have them be Jr. Bridesmaids if nothing else.

Haley handing out program is not a position of honor and no one feels important doing it. This is something you hire someone to do, not something you ask loved ones who are important to you to do.

Honestly...anything other than a Jr. bridesmaid would have annoyed pre-teen me, but I personally find the signs cheesy. Either have them in the wedding as a Jr. bridesmaid or don't. Mt uncle once made me "guest book attendant" when I was 12 and I hated it. Would have rather just been a guest and enjoyed myself.

I would just have them carry bouquets, they can be smaller ones. I'm not a fan of signs and I think they're too old for that.

My STB step daughter is my junior bridesmaid. I don't think she would've enjoyed anything else; she's had fun picking out dresses and shoes, just like the other BMs. She's 8.

I don't think 11 would want to carry signs, either.

My 11 year old niece will be doing a reading in our church ceremony. She feels pretty excited about that and as if it is a big responsibility (which it is!). Not sure if you'll be doing a church ceremony or other that lends itself to have readings. Signs to me are cheesy, but lots of people do them and love them! Just look at how popular it is on Pinterest lol. So if that's your thing, do it up. Although there's nothing wrong with "junior bridesmaids" either. That's a special place that will make them still feel just as special I'm sure.

Elizabeth - That's your opinion. I handed out programs and got a special dress to wear at my cousins wedding back in the day and I felt honored to do it mostly because I got to help greet family. I'd rather do that than not be apart of it at all as a child. But to each their own.

Haley, of course it's my opinion. The majority of things on this forum are opinion and no one said otherwise. This wasn't a choice between handing out programs and not being in the wedding. This was a choice between handing out programs and being junior bridesmaid or walking the aisle as a flower girl/carrying a sign. If you lurk around here, you'll find tons of posters like AyEmVee above who did the guestbook/program thing and hated it. It's really not considered a position of honor. If you enjoyed it as a child, more power to you, but an 11-year-old in that role? Yeah, I'm going to go out on a limb and say she'd feel much more honored as a junior bridesmaid.