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She seems to be leaning towards wanting a short dress instead of a long one. A couple of the ones she originally sent were long, but the more recent ones have been short. The dress she already has and the other girls are wearing is long with a slit. She told me she loved how the dress had a slit so she could still kind of show off her legs. She bought the shoes she wanted to wear to the wedding with her when we went shopping and she seemed very comfortable and happy in the dress. Had she or any of the other bridesmaids said they didn't like the dress I would have told them to pick a different dress since originally that's what the plan was.

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I think that's where you kinda have to put your foot down and say, if you can find something same color / fabric in a long dress, sure - go ahead. But if she's going to wear something that would definitely make things look off kilter, I'd strongly encourage her to keep the one she has.

LMAO. So she lost weight and wants to show off her legs in a short dress when literally everyone else is wearing the same long dress that everyone previously agreed on??

Not a chance. If she gives you trouble about it again, tell her "Hey sorry, but this is the dress everyone agreed on and this is what we're going with. You can change into a different dress for the reception if you want." If she won't wear the dress, she's out of the wedding party.

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So since the dress is pretty different from the other ones, I would agree that she should wear the one she initially agreed on. It is your day and while you are surely stressed with organizing everything else, she shouldn't add to that stress and should just wear what she already has. I'm sure she looks great in it despite what she may think.

From your update, it sounds like she wants an excuse to show off her legs. ...


If you do let her change dresses, make sure you set specific boundaries
For examplehe pays for it completely× colorY fabricLong length
Make it clear that you don't appreciate this added stress when you just had to postpone your wedding, you would prefer the uniform look you had all agrees on, but you want her to feel comfortable and beautiful

Now that you’ve mentioned that she wants a shorter dress when the rest of the girls have a long dress, all I can think of is the infamous Angelina Jolie leg dress!