Present for a friend who is marrying us

Get her a real officiant.

Restaurant gift card, spa/massage gift card, maybe tickets to a show or sporting event (although you'd need to know her schedule). Lessons of something she's interested in, like cooking or dancing.

My uncle is marrying us. He walks and jogs a lot. So we are thinking of getting him a gift certificate to a running store.

A week or two of Blue Apron or something along those ideas is a few new thing to give.

My officiant is a semi-professional opera singer. Every summer, she goes to Europe and performs in operas over there. I'm giving her cash to help fund this year's trip.

I'm getting my FBIL who is marrying us a gift card and a card expressing our gratitude. He is a pastor and NEVER officiates weddings unless it is family or very close friends so he was honored to marry us and we want to thank him for it in a way we think he will love-- FOOD! In gift card form LOL

ETA: of course, he refuses any payment so this is why FH and I settled on giftcards on the day of the wedding. Good luck

Our friend who is marrying us goes on a two week vacation with us every year, I think we will probably pay for his(and his boyfriend's) airfare/hotel next year as a thank you.

Let her be a guest and not work her. That would be a nice gift.

Speaking as someone whose fiancé gets asked to officiate weddings for family and friends, I would recommend hiring a pro. It takes hours of work for the officiant to prepare plus time to attend the dress rehearsal. Officiants deserve the $300-$500 (at least in my area) they charge because it's a lot of work so I would say either pay them like a pro or hire a pro.

We're getting our friend a gift card to a restaurant so he and his wife can go out for a nice date night. He spent quite a few nights with us in preparation for the ceremony (his choice) so we wanted to kind of thank his wife in a way too.

For what it's worth, I know there's a very big anti-friendor vibe on this forum but in our case we can't imagine our ceremony having gone any other way. The entire ceremony was exactly what we wanted and we got so many comments about how amazing and personal it was. Truly he did an amazing job. I do think pros are necessary to have in 95% of scenarios but I have to say we are so happy we chose a friend who was honored to do it and took it as seriously as a pro would have.

And it will take your 'friend" who doesn't do professionally this four times as long to get it together.

They should get 1000.00.

Okay?

And you can't tell people to shut up.

FSM= Flying Spaghetti Monster?

Gift card

WHOA OP you can't call people rude.

And you sure as hell shouldn't call Celia rude when she's giving you the absolute best advice, especially since I'm assuming you want your marriage to be legal.

ETA you posted on a public forum, asking for OPINIONS. So don't be surprised that you got them.

@nicoleb. That's epic I had a huge paper mache fsm lol

The church of the flying spaghetti monster?! What the fuck is that? Is that seriously a religion? I need to come out from under my rock apparently.

Also OP, don't be rude to Celia. She was offering you good advice. You state that you didn't ask for opinions...yet you post on an Internet forum. What did you expect to happen? You're going to get opinions, so deal with it!

I am having a close friend of ours be our officiant. I'm getting her a bottle of her favorite wine and tickets to a musical she's been dying to see. I know she will do a wonderful job, and she's thrilled I asked her. You do you, OP

OP I'm with ya. Our friend is officiating as well and he is SUPER excited. Still far out from our wedding, so not sure what we are planning to do gift-wise. I am also on the side of wanting our officiate to actually know us as a couple as I have been to weddings recently where the officiate messed up the couple's names. Smh...

I chose a professional over a friend who had never done a wedding, THANKS TO Celia. It was one of the best decisions after we met and I realized how much the officiant truly does for a wedding - runs the rehearsal, lectures the bridal party about etiquette, helps with timing and music choices, etc.

Just because you disagree with comments doesn't make that person the names you called her.

I happen to agree with Celia, so I suppose I'm those things too.

Go team rude, unwelcome, and unwanted!

ETA: welcome to the internet, where everyone has different opinions. Also, FSM...that's real? I just Googled it after thinking it was sarcasm. You'd think someone who follows a religion most find...different...would be welcoming of various opinions?

Hey date twin! I'm a big fan of gifting experiences rather than just items. Sure a bottle of wine is nice, but they'll remember a sporting event or concert more. I would also suggest just giving money