Premarital Counseling

We did it and think it’s the best way to set a strong foundation for your marriage. We went to a pastor in Columbia, MD if you’re interested.

We are currently doing it. Theres a counseling center right down the street from where we live. It has been a great experience, we communicate better and are more on the same page then before. I would recommend it. Its eye opening.

We are doing it currently and every couple with whom I’ve spoken has done it, or else they are doing couples counseling now. I know for us, as a young couple, it’s a good way to remind us of the challenges that marriage brings and give us tools to deal with them as they may arise. The pastor is a family friend of mine and is talented at asking the right questions to get us talking vividly about things we wouldn’t have thought would be issues, even on the car ride home. If you are serious about wanting your marriage to last, it is a great idea to put effort into your relationship and preparing for married life during the wedding planning process because it’s so easy to neglect that in all the excitement leading up to the big day. But then the wedding is over and it’s just you two for the rest of your lives.

I definitely recommend, premarital counseling... it definitely puts a lot of things in perspective for you and your partner.

We did it because my FH was convinced we’d get divorced if we didn’t. The counselor told him to just chill out and that we were fine—good communicators and prioritize our relationship and whatnot, and after just a few sessions she cut us loose. I’m glad we did it. It helped him relax and know that we were good.

My fiancé and I went to premarital and it was the BEST thing we could’ve done. It allowed us to have transparent conversations and make sure we are on the same page. We both come from a background of divorced parents and we are determined to make this work until God calls us home! I feel like this should be done before you even start diving deep into wedding planning.

We didn't do it. But I don't think we were like most couples. We had been together for 4+ years, lived together for 3.5+ years, had shared finances for 2+ years, and bought a house together over a year before we got married. We had gone through a rough spot around 2 years and went to counseling then. That taught us a lot about communication. So for us, it didn't make sense to do counseling again just because we were getting married. But if we ever need it or have trouble communicating again, we will for sure go again. We had also bought two pre-marital books and read through them individually & together. I think as long as you have discussed things like kids, family values, religion, politics, finances, saving money, retirement, life plan, etc. counseling isn't required. But if you've never been, it's not bad to go! Even if you don't go, I'd buy one of the books.

We were offered it but decided against it. we felt like our foundation and communication was solid enough to not need it. but i definitely don't think it's a bad idea though for couples who feel maybe there's things they can address before their marriage