Pregnant- move or keep wedding date?

I cannot speak to the newborn side of things as we don’t yet have kids, but the end of wedding planning may be a nice thing to focus on while on maternity leave (other than your precious little one!).

I’m 2 days from the wedding, and I personally found balancing work and planning to be a struggle because I was never home.

How much planning do you have finished already? Would wedding planning and baby planning work for you financially? If you think that you can complete the bulk of your planning in the next few months before you need to go into major prep mode for baby, I see no problem with keeping your date the same.

Congrats!! The first thing I’d do is get ahold of wherever you bought your wedding dress, and find out if they can do any alterations in between having the baby and the wedding, since pregnancy does change your body. But I honestly think the main thing I’d be worried about is whether or not I’d still be bleeding (my sister bled for 6 weeks with her last one, but longer with her others). But you also have to think of if you’re breastfeeding, will you be able to make bottles for the ceremony/reception?
Other than that, it seems like babies spend most of their time sleeping, eating and crying so I’d think as long as you have the majority of planning done before then you’d be ok!

(Sorry, this is long). Today is my wedding day for my second marriage. I’ve got two kids, ages 13 and 9. So I’ve planned two weddings and had newborns, just not at the same time. I wouldn’t have been able to do what I’ve done in the last 8 weeks with a newborn. My parents and I, along with FH and his parents, have done everything for this wedding- no professional vendors at all except a local baker made cupcakes. Having a newborn is wonderful, but exhausting. 8 weeks after both my sons were born they were barely in a schedule and they were still nursing every 3 hours around the clock due to weight gain issues, plus I was pumping, so there were only 2 hours tops between feedings for me to sleep or shower or eat. Even small errands had to be planned carefully. If you’re planning a wedding where vendors will decorate, cook, serve food, and clean up after so that all you do on your day is get ready then it’s more possible. I would move up my wedding date if possible and hope your precious little one doesn’t make a surprise early entrance. Or maybe postpone so that he/she is about 6 months old? At that point you could both be sleeping through the night and getting out is easier. I will say that my first H refused to keep our kids alone for even short periods of time and also refused to take care of them in any way except change diapers sometimes, so I was basically a single mother. Having a hands-on, supportive FH/ spouse would probably make a world of difference! Good luck with whatever you decide! And congratulations!

I would consider post poning it. Aside from the large amounts of energy & attention a newborn needs, you yourself will need at least 6 weeks to fully recover after the baby (8 weeks if you have a c-section). Once they start sleeping through the night, it gets so much easier. Congrats on both blessings!

I would move it. When I had my son, I felt horrible for a while and didn’t even want to get out of bed with how sleep deprived and sore I was, I can’t even imagine having a wedding with an 8 week old.

Hi Nicole! Congrats! I would take time to consider if you think you can continue planning and giving the necessary attention to specific areas all while caring for your newborn. If you feel like it might be too stressful, then definitely postpone to focus on your baby. Feel the situation out to see what you think will work best! Good luck, and have a safe pregnancy!

Double congratulations!!

My MOH has an 8 week old baby right now. I would absolutely postpone your date if you don't mind doing so. 100% of her time is dedicated to feeding baby, baby appointments, trying to sleep, and trying to remember to shower or feed herself. And in the last weeks leading up to delivery (which is where another friend of mine currently is) she was so exhausted and worn out, that she wouldn't have been able to do anything anyway.

Plus, if you postpone for long enough, your new child will be able to be an active part of the wedding, which would be so special!

I'm a little crazy, but I'd continue as planned. Get as much stuff done as you can well before your due date. Consider hiring a DOC, if you don't already have one.

View Quoted Comment I'm a little crazy too, and I'm leaning toward keeping it... but what's a DOC?

View Quoted Comment ^^^^^ Exactly this. And as a PP stated, if you will be breastfeeding that adds another layer of complication. If you haven’t booked many vendors yet, postpone. OR if you’re up to the shortened timeline challenge, move the date up. Hopefully, those that you have booked will be understanding and allow you to change dates with little to no extra charge. Good luck and CONGRATS!!!u

I would say if you keep the fate get all the wedding stuff done before the baby comes.

You also should consider what you need to do to prepare for the baby and what you need to do still for the wedding with how much time you have left. Can you do both without stressing yourself on over two things that should be enjoyable.

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I would move your date up if at all possible. Having your first newborn and your wedding is a recipe for tears, extreme fatigue and disaster.

You will be extremely exhausted and emotional 8 weeks postpartum, especially if you're breastfeeding. Baby most likely won't even be sleeping through the night yet which means neither will you or your fiance. Ultimately it's up to you. I would either move it up or have it when the baby's at least a few months older.

I just found out I'm pregnant again and I feel like it's karma as we put off the wedding indefinitely when I found out I was pregnant the last time. I didn't want to have a baby bump. Now we've already booked our venue and set the date and it's too late to back out. Oh well.

View Quoted Comment Exactly what I'm doing! However, my due date is 1 week before my wedding. Im pretty confident I will deliver early since all of mine have been early. Am I slightly crazy? 100%

I'm in the same boat and have no idea what to do! I'm due November 10th and our wedding is 02/22/20. We love the date we chose but I'm not sure about keeping the date with a 3.5 month old and just getting back to work.

Well, I decided to keep the date. I did as much as possible before the baby was born. It's working out pretty well and I'm glad I didn't move it.