Some background-
My maid of honor is having her first baby about 3.5 months before the wedding. She hasn't really expressed any concerns about this but I have some reservations about her being able to do all of the pre-wedding activities like the shower and bachelorette party.
I also have another friend who I was MOH for in her wedding last year. I was thinking about having her as MOH but I ultimately went with the friend I have known longer/am a bit closer with even though I wasn't MOH in her wedding.
I'm looking for advice on two things-
1.) For those of you with kids, do you think you would have been able to be a MOH and do the pre-wedding activities with an under 3 month old baby? How about just being in a wedding in general when baby is <4 months old?
2.) what are thoughts on having co-maid of honors? I was thinking this could be a solution so I can make sure my second friend is given the recognition that I think she deserves but my original MOH would likely be somewhat offended by this.... she has a history of being slightly jealous by other friendships. However, I could frame it as a way to make sure she does not get overwhelmed by MOH duties.
Thoughts?