Pregnant moh procrastinating on Dress??

That's a hard one. One of my bridesmaids (no longer a bridesmaid) was pregnant when I asked her to be a part of the wedding. When we went to look at dresses we picked one. BUT she sat on buying the dress too. She was going to wait until July and my wedding is September. Well we both decided she had too much going on anyway and she got out of the wedding.

But, I would def go with her. Is that an option? Pick a day you both are available and say come on we are getting this done. She's your sister so you can do that

Is there any "special" way she could have the dress altered to account for a baby bump?

I chose dresses before one of my bridesmaids was pregnant and she too will be around 5 months for my wedding but she is already starting to show pretty good. I knew her being pregnant by my wedding was a good possibility, so I tried to kind of chose a dress that might account for that. Her dress just came in and we we were hoping the middle band would fit on top of her bump, but it's looking like it wont. So her aunt is going to try to take that part out so it's flowy. It will look a little different than the other bridesmaids, but she will still be in the same dress!

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Unfortunately there isn't. Her current dress is velvet head to toe and really leaves no room for a bump - maybe a small little cutesy 3 to maybbee 4 month bump, but nothing more.

I'm so very frustrated because I'm not sure she understands how long it can take to get a dress in and then get in line to have it altered . . .

I didn't get involved when my MOH got pregnant after buying her dress. I didn't get pregnant, why should I be coordinating her dress shopping? She went on her own and exchanged it with David's Bridal. According to her, they were understanding and she had no issue. Your sister is an adult, if you don't want to micromanage her, don't. Good luck!

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I get that's frustrating. Especially being your sister, because I doubt you would want her to opt out of being in your bridal party. Are you trying to get her a maternity dress instead?

My little brother's girlfriend is in my wedding and it took my mom having to measure her and order her dress for her because she waited so long. All of my other bridesmaids are getting their dresses in now and her's won't be here until middle of July.

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I don't wish to micromanage her! I'm more looking for when people exchanged their dresses, when pregnant BMs or MOHs purchased their dresses, etc. It's great that your MOH was responsible and timely, not every MOH is though.

If she wants to buy off the rack she may be waiting until close to the wedding so she knows her size. If the dress will have to be ordered and made though I can totally sympathize with your concern! Which is her situation? What about asking her out for a girls day, with lunch and pedicures and a quick stop off at the dress shop? Maybe that would entice her to make time, put you at ease, and give you a fun day with your sis!

Where is she shopping from? We ordered ours from David’s and they told us 4 months but they all came within 3 weeks. I would have her order now and get a size or 2 bigger then have it altered a week or 2 before the wedding. For my sister’s wedding, my other sister ended up being about 6 months pregnant at the wedding but she wasn’t pregnant when we ordered dresses. She did have the dress altered in the last month before the wedding and they did have to do some stuff 2 times for it to fit, but it did.

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All the other girls ordered - if she's able to find one in her size in the right color off the rack then that's great! But if she's not able to or if the dress is the right size but wrong color, etc.), then what?

View Quoted Comment My MOH will be 6 months pregnant by my wedding date. She exchanged her dress at around 4 months pregnant and it's a good thing she did!

My wedding is 9 days away and one of my bridesmaids hasn't even gotten hers yet ahah she's very much like yours - a lagger and a hot mess when it comes to organization. She says she will do it this weekend. I mean she better ahah not much time left. I let them choose their own and so the others just went to Ross or Amazon and have mismatched dresses in shades of what I want so it shouldn't be too hard for her to get a dress off a rack

My MOH will be 7 months pregnant at the wedding. She exchanged her dress at David's Bridal last month and my wedding is in July. It took like 2 weeks to get the new one in.

Two of my bridesmaids were pregnant at the time of my wedding - one with twins. I handled it by trusting that they were adults and knew that they had to have a dress on for the ceremony. All of them ordered from David's Bridal, and one of my girls ordered hers about a month before the wedding. Showed up only days later. I wanted to avoid stressing them out - they are adults, they should know how to meet a deadline. So I left them alone. And if they showed up to the wedding without a dress, then well - I'm happy they're here to celebrate, but I'll grab them a seat instead of standing with me.

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That's so awesome that all worked out! And that everything came in on time. Having my sister sit out isn't an option. Unfortunately not all adults know how to meet deadlines :-) So much so that I had to special order an invitation with a start time 2.5 hours before my ceremony for my parents haha (they need to be at the bridal suite early in the AM anyway). Not having my parents there also isn't an option.

Since there is no real way of knowing how big her bump will be around 5 months and she's the MOH have you thought about switching out the style of dress? Maybe something more like an A-line dress so it leaves baby bump room? She's probably partially dragging her feet trying to avoid having to swap it out twice and if the MOH is dressed different then everyone else I don't think it will be a super big deal as long as it's the same color?

She just needs to order a size or two up and then alter as needed.

TwoBirds makes convertible dresses that are really versatile, but they are expensive. They come in two sizes, A which fits US sizes 0-12 and B which fits US sizes 14-24. They're in the $200-$300 range though, but the nice thing is that they will accommodate all different shapes and sizes, so would be ideal for a pregnant bridesmaid or someone whose weight fluctuates a lot.

They sell the TwoBirds Ginger dress at BHLDN but on the TwoBirds website they have a number of velvet options: https://www.twobirdsnewyork.com/collections/bridal-velvet

Not sure what your budget is, but if your dresses are already in the higher price range and you aren't set on them being the exact same, it might be worth considering just getting one of these for your sister. You might save a little on alterations (the dresses don't have a specific fit, but you might still need them hemmed) and you could order it now and then know it will fit regardless of what size your sis ends up being.

Note: I've never seen or tried one of these in person (nor do I know anyone who has) but I think the concept is interesting. Definitely read reviews to see if they are actually practical before you purchase if you think you might go this route!