Pregnant Bridesmaids

Your post isn't really clear. Are you talking about dropping your fiance's sister as a bridesmaid because she's trying to get pregnant? God I hope not.

If you are, stop right now. This is your future family you are talking about treating like trash, and they are not standing there 'reminding you' of the next step. They are working on their family! Take a step back and think bigger picture here.

View Quoted Comment No, I’m not talking about dropping her. I’m asking how best to organize the bridal party or if it would be ok to mix and match the sides.

“I just don’t want the physical reminder of the ‘next step’.”—what?? Like you don’t want pregnant bridesmaids because it’ll feel like they’re reminding you to get pregnant? That’s a little over the top.

View Quoted Comment You don’t need to mix and match the sides. The people you asked should be on your side, and the people your FS asked should be on their side.

What? People get pregnant all the time... they're not going to work it around your wedding. What exactly are you asking? If your FSIL is overstepping you or FH should talk to her and say thank you for trying to help but we don't need any help. Other than that I don't know what to tell you..

I’m also confused? Why would them being pregnant make you mix the sides?? Does FH not have 4 members as well? The sides don’t have to be even...

I ended up having two pregnant bridesmaids - surprise! I figured I would because I'm kind of in the same position where we are the last to the married party (even though we've been together longer than most lol). I just lined them up however I would have anyway. I think mixing and matching bridal party is fine but I'm not sure how this would be more pleasing to the eye than having two pregnant women on one side?

I think you're smart to acknowledge that you have no say over other's reproductive choices. Just try to remember that those choices don't have any effect on your wedding and the point of your wedding day. You'll still be married to your fiance at the end of the day no matter where the pregnant women stand.

I don't see why it matters if they are pregnant or not. You should be happy for them!

If you begrudge them being pregnant because of your personal issues, then I'm not surprised they aren't all that thrilled to be bridesmaids.

You don't need time to respond. They didn't even owe you a heads up that they are trying to get pregnant. Their reproductive choices are their business alone.

I'm not understanding how her being pregnant leads to you wanting to mix the sides.

It sounds like you're feeling a lot of pressure with all the pregnancies around you, and the way your future sister-in-law approached it really rubbed you the wrong way. I totally get that! At the same time, that stress arises from where you are in life; married a little bit later than your friends, pressure to have kids. Imagine looking back at your wedding pictures thirty years from now. Will you be bothered to see a pregnant belly? Or will you smile to think that your niece or nephew attended your wedding in utero?

if her being prego wasn't a issue than you wouldn't have said it. Place them tallest to shortest and stop worrying about her belly.

Even if they are trying, it doesn't mean they are absolutely going to get pregnant right away. Even if they do get pregnant it doesn't mean they'll be showing at the time of yout wedding. Don't stress over something you can't control. There are plenty of bridesmaids dresses for pregnant women

What??? Just no. No you do not need to make different arrangements because their bellies may be growing. That is the most ridiculous thing I think I've heard. It's not something for you "to be OK with." She has a life outside your wedding and she didn't even need to tell you. She was probably excited and expected you to be excited for her as well.

I'm like everyone else, a little confused. Based on your date, June, even if they were lucky enough to get pregnant right away they would be just about 4ish months pregnant (depending on when in June) when you have your wedding so it shouldn't be much of a problem. Find BM dresses they have room to 'grow' in and you should be fine.

It may seem like this isn't how you want things to go right now but in 10 years when you look back, it won't matter. All the little things I stressed about, that seemed like big deals before my wedding day (my first marriage), the day of my wedding I didn't care. I was just so happy in the moment nothing bothered me.