Pregnant Bridesmaid

I would let her come to you, and let her know that it’s okay whatever she chooses. And don’t assume anything, maybe she just thinks she is and isn’t 100% sure and that’s why she hasn’t said anything. Good luck!

I would just wait for her to tell you she's pregnant, she may not be. If she is and comes to tell you, I would just let her know that if being in the wedding is going to be too much stress for her with a newborn, you would completely understand if she'd rather be a guest. Otherwise, she can certainly still be a bridesmaid if she's still willing.

If she wants to drop out because she’s pregnant, tell her you understand and love her and are so happy for her. While it may be disappointing if she drops out of the wedding, pregnancy is a valid, understandable and acceptable reason for stepping down. But wait until she approaches you about it. Don’t assume she’s going to drop out, or that she’s even pregnant until you hear it from her. You really won’t know what’s what until you speak to her.

My suggestion is do absolutely nothing at all. I’m not sure why you would. If she is pregnant and tells you, say congratulations! Then move along. If for some reason she decides that this makes her unable to participate in your wedding, wait for her to approach you about it and then graciously say you totally understand and you still hope she’ll come to the wedding. But, unless there are some extenuating circumstances (like she’s have to fly at 38 weeks or it’s a destination wedding where Zika is a problem), I would expect pregnancy to make someone drop out of a wedding. If I was in a wedding and became pregnant, I’d certainly intend to keep my place in the bridal party. So, I’d just manage your expectations. Mental prep for it she does choose to back out is great, but on the flipside also mentally prepare that she may not want to drip out but she also may not be able to be as involved as she otherwise would have been or would want to be. Maybe she can’t come to every event. Maybe she skips the bachelorette— so. Just prepare for these possibilities and continue to support your friend

Ugh auto correct!!! *wouldnt* expect!! Haha, I was trying to say I wouldn’t expect pregnancy to be an automatic drop out for most people. Maybe some to be sure, but. Or everyone. Just may change their level of involvement. So, I’d really just follow her lead on her comfort zone.

Let her come to you. Good luck!

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You're right I need to hear it from her first

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You're right until she personally tell me she is pregnant then I'm not going to assume anything

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I agree! I'm going to wait and let it all play out

You have SO much time so I wouldn't even worry about this. If she is pregnant now, she would be due several months before your wedding. Even if she misses things like the bachelorette party, etc. it's not a big deal. I think you are stressing in advance and it's not needed. Don't worry!

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Ok! I'm not going to sweat it. I think I'm over thinking it.

Wait for her to come to you, or until the information has been announced publicly. She could very well be pregnant and in her first trimester and trying not to tell anyone early, and she may have missed your pizza event because she has morning sickness. Being pregnant isn't easy! Let her come to you and don't force the issue, and let you know you support her whatever she chooses.