Pregnant bride?

My opinion is that it’s none of my business if/when people decide to get married or have children.

Well that is up to you. How important is having the wedding if you want to have kids. I have had two sorority sisters get married when pregnant. While I have my thoughts on it at the end of the day it is not my wedding and really would not care less. I would say that if you dislike the idea then that is what matters. Maybe wait until after the baby to have a wedding? You are married so that is what matters.

View Quoted Comment Being a mom has always been important to me. I’ve always felt like I was born to be a mom and with everything going on I could care less if I’m pregnant at my wedding.

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Then I say go for it. Here is the way I see things, we can all go to someone's wedding and say oh I would do this differently but honestly who cares what anyone thinks...especially when they aren't paying for things ha ha. I think your feelings about being a mom takes precedence and you two should both do what you want. Who cares what others think and they may not care. Anyone who really cares is there to celebrate you two and your union especially during a difficult time...I think they will understand.

The bigger issue is not being a visibly pregnant bride. That's your business. The bigger issue is being a legally unwed mother during a pandemic. Being legally married vs not married could be the difference between being able to get on your husband's health insurance if need be (or vice versa), him being allowed to make medical decisions if you become incapacitated, you being automatically entitled to half his assets if something happens to him, etc. Pregnacy can come with complications, but a pandemic compunds everything. If it's important for you and your FH that he be at the appointments and the birth, you may want to wait it out until the hospitals gradually relax their restrictions.


I would either hold off until after the wedding, or get legally married now and still have your wedding at the scheduled date.
Good luck.

I’m facing the same dilemma... we were supposed to get married in April but had to postpone until September. We were planning to start a family immediately after the April wedding, but obviously things have changed. I really don’t want to postpone starting a family too, especially when I’m unsure what type of wedding we will have in September. I think we are going to try for a baby and see what happens.

Hi Jodie,

It sounds like you and I are in a similar boat. We were originally scheduled for 5/16/20, and postponed to 10/10/20. I'm not even sure an October wedding is feasible at this point (or the way we had hoped, at least). If I weren't 34 years old, I would definitely postpone to next Fall, just to avoid all this horrible anxiety and disappointment. However, we originally planned on starting a family after our May 2020 wedding, and I don't want to wait anymore.

Right now I am holding out hope that things will be a go in the fall. But if things take a turn for the worse, I am thinking of having a small ceremony with immediate family, and then planning a one-year anniversary party next October (2021). But I'm concerned we won't get pregnant right away, and I could potentially end up 9 months pregnant at the anniversary party! (Well, God forbid, I guess not ending up pregnant at all would definitely be worse).

I know you posted this a month ago. Curious where you stand now, what are you thinking??

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Hi Taylor,

It sounds like you and I are in a similar boat. We were originally scheduled for 5/16/20, and postponed to 10/10/20. I'm not even sure an October wedding is feasible at this point (or the way we had hoped, at least). If I weren't 34 years old, I would definitely postpone to next Fall, just to avoid all this horrible anxiety and disappointment. However, we originally planned on starting a family after our May 2020 wedding, and I don't want to wait anymore.

Right now I am holding out hope that things will be a go in the fall. But if things take a turn for the worse, I am thinking of having a small ceremony with immediate family, and then planning a one-year anniversary party next October (2021). But I'm concerned we won't get pregnant right away, and I could potentially end up 9 months pregnant at the anniversary party! (Well, God forbid, I guess not ending up pregnant at all would definitely be worse).

I know you posted this a month ago. Curious where you stand now, what are you thinking??