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Pregnant at the reception

Annie, on March 14, 2021 at 10:57 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 14

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Hi! So I need some advice for my reception. I eloped last year on my original date because of covid and my husband and I are planning a reception for June 12th. Well we weren't trying to get pregnant but we also weren't trying to avoid it really, so now we are pregnant! We are so excited.

However it turns out I'll be around 5 months pregnant at the reception. I'm vaccinated already so I'm not worried about being at an event, I'm more worried that I will be showing/not drinking at the event and people will wonder. Should I announce my pregnancy beforehand on social media? Should I announce it at the celebration? Or should I hide it until after? So far only our parents know, so it's still possible to keep it a secret maybe

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Latest activity by Grace, on April 23, 2021 at 11:36 AM

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Molly · on March 14, 2021 at 11:13 PM
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Congrats on the pregnancy! I think it's totally up to you! However, in my opinion, it would be kind of sweet to announce it at your reception. Then your family can double celebrate!
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Liz · on March 15, 2021 at 12:30 AM
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Congratulations on the pregnancy! By 5 months the chances are you’ll be visibly pregnant, so I’m not sure hiding or leaving people to wonder will be on option 😀. If you want to announce it before the event you absolutely could. Otherwise, let people discover on the day, and formally ‘announce’ during the celebrations.
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Michelle · on March 15, 2021 at 12:54 AM
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Announce your pregnancy only when you are ready. I don't see how you can hide it at 5 months unless you are one of the rare few who doesn't show. By that time, most will already know so no need to stress.
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Rebecca · on March 15, 2021 at 2:47 AM
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At 5 months, people will know, but it's also *none of their business if you don't want it to be*.
Announce when you want.
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KiwiDerbyBride · on March 15, 2021 at 3:17 AM
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I’d announce at the reception. I’m 4.5 months pregnant now (21weeks) and I’m at the point where it’s becoming impossible to hide, so you may not be able to keep it a secret anyway! By then you should have had all the major scans etc so should be well and truly safe to announce.
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Elizabeth · on March 15, 2021 at 7:09 AM
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I agree with this. If people don't know yet, what a fun way to annouce!
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Veronica · on March 15, 2021 at 8:49 AM
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I'm currently pregnant and I can tell you that at five months you will be showing so unless you plan on wearing a huge dress or sweater I don't think there will be any way for you to hide. As for announcing it that's completely up to you, but people aren't stupid so I will definitely notice the change in your body. They will also likely notice you aren't drinking at your own wedding so even if they didn't notice your body change they will probably question why you aren't drinking.
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Annie · on March 15, 2021 at 9:17 AM
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Thank you! I was kind of hoping someone would say this, I want to mention it at the wedding even if people already know but I wasn't sure if that would be considered a faux-paus
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Annie · on March 15, 2021 at 9:18 AM
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Haha that's good to know! I wasn't sure when people start to show on their first pregnancy. I'm happy to be loud and proud with my baby belly if I am showing. And yeah as my first I am not telling too many people early anyway, but I think by 5 mo I should be good to tell people
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Celina · on March 16, 2021 at 9:39 AM
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It would be cute to announce at the celebration but it all depends on when your comfortable. Congratulations!!!
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Katie · on March 18, 2021 at 1:23 PM
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I think it would be a faux-pas to announce your pregnancy at SOMEONE ELSE'S wedding, but certainly not your own! It just gives everyone one more reason to celebrate! But I agree with other posters that anyone who sees you around that time will probably suspect it anyway, so I would tell people as you feel comfortable doing so and then make a big announcement to everyone at the wedding to cover anyone you hadn't told yet.
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Julie · on April 16, 2021 at 6:51 AM
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Similar situation with me!!! Had a “covid wedding” last September because we couldn’t wait and have the big reception planned for this September. Well guess what, I’m pregnant! We are thrilled , because a baby is what matters to us now. Is there a reason you want to keep quiet until month 5? I’d be bursting at the seams to tell people! Like most people above me said, I would think you’d be showing by then, depending on your dress style. I think announcing it at your wedding would be a magical, unforgettable moment for all!!!
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Courtney · on April 23, 2021 at 10:53 AM
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I'm currently pregnant with my first, 34 weeks today and I know many are showing by month 5 but I actually wasn't! I'm not super tiny or anything, pre-pregnancy weight was 128 and in month 5 I was still wearing normal clothes/jeans and hadn't gained more than maybe 3-4 pounds. So, just saying you might not be showing as much as others think, but its just hard to say!
I think it would be awesome to announce at the wedding, that would give everyone an extra reason to celebrate, two great things happening after a year of hard times! I think it would be really special to do an announcement at the wedding! Best of luck to you!
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Grace · on April 23, 2021 at 11:36 AM
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If you are REALLY showing by then you could have an announcement and act like it should be a huge surprise to everyone when it is staring them in the face. "I know, you would never have guessed if we weren't telling you!" sort of thing. (Depends on you and your husband's sense of humor on that one.)
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