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Just Said Yes April 2019

Pregnant: announce before or after wedding?

Virginia, on January 30, 2019 at 11:10 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 14

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We recently found out I'm pregnant!!! It was not planned, but we are excited. I will be 5 months on our wedding day. I have already exchanged my very fitted dress for a flowy a line. Should we announce before or after the wedding??

My mom holds a very strong opinion we should wait, because then people will only be focusing on the baby and not us at the wedding.

We've already told close family and a few friends, so I'm worried about someone slipping up, or people noticing and whispering about it. I'm really stuck because we want our wedding to be about us but we also want to share the exciting news! Plus, it'll be obvious when I have the baby I was pregnant before lol. Anyone have any experience with this? Or advice??

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Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on January 30, 2019 at 11:23 AM
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I would announce before the wedding. It’s too likely that someone will slip up within 5 months and even in a flowy dress, it’s very possible that someone could notice your bump.
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Master October 2018
MrsV1027 · on January 30, 2019 at 11:24 AM
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I would share the news when you want to. You will have a noticeable baby bump by the wedding so people are going to figure it out. They will be there to celebrate everything because it's all exciting. The baby just adds to the special day. Each time I got pregnant people knew within days lol. I am not good at keeping secrets.
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Caytlyn · on January 30, 2019 at 11:26 AM
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I wish I could add to my initial comment, but I can’t. I just wanted to say that people speculating and gossiping about you possibly being pregnant is going to take more attention from the wedding day than people simply knowing that you’re pregnant. I understand what your mom is getting at, but I think it’ll be quite the opposite.
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Danielle · on January 30, 2019 at 11:43 AM
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At 5 months you will more than likely be showing. I would announce before the wedding. That way you don't have the rumors flying, and you won't have guests asking why you aren't drinking or why do you look so tired, lol. This is exciting news, and nothing to be ashamed of, so your mom will come around. I think sometimes our parents unknowingly make us feel a certain way because of how they were raised. BE EXCITED!!! Announce it to the world, and everyone will be happy for you.
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Just Said Yes April 2019
Virginia · on January 30, 2019 at 11:48 AM
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That's what I'm thinking!! But outside opinions make me feel way better.
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Just Said Yes April 2019
Virginia · on January 30, 2019 at 11:53 AM
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Lol!! I'm the worst at secrets. I might accidentally tell before then if we try to wait 😂😂 I think we'll wait until my next appointment and then go for it!
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Just Said Yes April 2019
Virginia · on January 30, 2019 at 11:58 AM
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Lol! Definitely don't want the rumors. We aren't having alcohol anyways so we're good there! But you're totally right. I think the sooner we do it, it won't be so fresh on everyone's minds the day of!!
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Master June 2019
Danielle · on January 30, 2019 at 12:01 PM
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Agreed...and congratulations!!
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Emily · on January 30, 2019 at 12:02 PM
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I'm definitely on team tell. I appreciate what your mom is saying, but the baby IS about you guys! Plus it's still your wedding day, that will always be primary on people's minds.
As an aside, a friend I worked with was pregnant, she started to show very early. She had wanted to wait until 4 months to tell staff but by 3 months she looked almost 5 months pregnant. We eventually discussed her just telling people because staff kept asking other people and it was so awkward, I was just telling people she was gaining weight... lol. You never know how you'll show so it may be easier on your mind to just be open!
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MrsD · on January 30, 2019 at 12:46 PM
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I would assume by 5 months you would be showing? At least most my friends & family were at 5 months. And they were not drinking (obviously) which may be odd at a wedding. Could you announce at the wedding? That would be cute.
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Maria · on January 30, 2019 at 1:48 PM
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It might do the opposite of what you are looking to do, but you could announce the gender at your wedding also! I have seen cute ideas of colored fireworks at the end of the night or cake flavorings (strawberry vs blueberry).
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shannon.sv · on January 30, 2019 at 1:52 PM
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I went to a friend's wedding, who was pregnant, but only some people knew. She was a couple of months along so she had a dress that hid her bump very well. At the reception, as people were eating, they made the announcement! It was nice because the ceremony was solely about them and their marriage, but the reception was a big celebration of multiple things!
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Kaylie · on January 30, 2019 at 6:43 PM
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Congrats!! My sister was 5 months pregnant on her wedding day - all the guests knew beforehand and their day was definitely not focused on the baby. They also did a gender reveal wedding cake, which was a huge hit and a super cute moment
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