Pre or Post Wedding Celebration

My fiance and I decided to hold a micro wedding in Austin TX (we are in Dallas) that will include our parents, siblings and one friend each. We still want to do something with our friends in Dallas. He wants to do something before the wedding but I feel like that might be rude since the majority of the people are not invited to the wedding. We've both asked friends that would not be invited to the wedding but would be invited to the (yet to be named) pre or post party. They were understanding of our reasoning behind wanting such a small and intimate wedding and said they wouldn't expect anyone to be offended but I still feel a pre-wedding party (send off?) would be awkward and a post-wedding celebration would be more appropriate... What are your suggestions? What have you seen or done?