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Just Said Yes June 2020

Pre or Post Wedding Celebration

Ashleigh, on January 28, 2020 at 4:43 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8

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My fiance and I decided to hold a micro wedding in Austin TX (we are in Dallas) that will include our parents, siblings and one friend each. We still want to do something with our friends in Dallas. He wants to do something before the wedding but I feel like that might be rude since the majority of the people are not invited to the wedding. We've both asked friends that would not be invited to the wedding but would be invited to the (yet to be named) pre or post party. They were understanding of our reasoning behind wanting such a small and intimate wedding and said they wouldn't expect anyone to be offended but I still feel a pre-wedding party (send off?) would be awkward and a post-wedding celebration would be more appropriate... What are your suggestions? What have you seen or done?

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Latest activity by Jennifer, on January 29, 2020 at 5:45 PM

Champion June 2019
Gen · on January 28, 2020 at 4:44 PM
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Definitely agree pre-wedding would be weird. Do it after the wedding
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Master October 2020
Mandi · on January 28, 2020 at 4:46 PM
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Yeah I think pre would be super awkward. Post it's done it's over it's the norm.
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Master September 2019
Sherry · on January 28, 2020 at 4:53 PM
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Before would be weird. I would do it after.
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Legend July 2019
MrsD · on January 28, 2020 at 5:29 PM
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I would do post wedding for sure.
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VIP October 2020
Ingrid · on January 29, 2020 at 1:01 AM
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We're doing a pre-wedding reception with those that weren't invited or not able to attend our DW wedding in Jamaica. I think it's personal preference, its not traditional but I love that we're doing things our way for the celebration of our love.
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Jennifer · on January 29, 2020 at 1:51 PM
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Post wedding is the most appropriate! Pre-wedding would rub me the wrong way if I was a guest!
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Just Said Yes June 2020
Ashleigh · on January 29, 2020 at 5:09 PM
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But why? Solely because etiquette dictates this? I try to explain this to my fiancé and that’s usually his response. His side is that we’re not really doing this the traditional way so not all traditions apply to this party
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Jennifer · on January 29, 2020 at 5:45 PM
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I mean that as a guest I would prefer to celebrate your marriage after it happened. That way you can share pictures if you have any, and guests can hear about the day as it went and celebrate that you are a newlywed. One before would just be kind of like “let’s celebrate this day you’re not invited to coming up” while a post party is more similar to a reception in my opinion!
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