Pre marital counselor

If they are an actual professional licensed counselor this would violate their professional boundaries.

I've heard of some churches that have pastors or religious leaders who counsel religiously who wouldn’t be bound by an ethics.

We we had a pre-marital counseling block (6 sessions) with a licensed family and martial therapist for three months leading up to our wedding. It was enjoyable and helpful. We did a lot of discussions about communication, boundaries, intimacy, and conflict resolution. It was also nice to have an outsiders perspective on those “greatest hits” hot topics that seem to come up as frequent spats.

View Quoted Comment It is the family life pastor who is doing it. He would not be bound by that.

We did premarital counseling with our rabbi. He's actually my cousin in law, so he was invited to the wedding as both officiant and family member. We met with him twice before the wedding. We went over details of the ceremony and what we needed to do to prepare for the big day. He went over what we needed to buy for the ceremony.

He consulted with the Judaica shop on the wording of our ketubah (Jewish marriage contract). He instructed us to fassign two Jewish witnesses to sign it. We had to find out our parents' Hebrew names to be given to the ketubah artist. We also had to submit our own Hebrew names. (I knew how to write mine already, but DH needed a little help from his parents to find out what his full Hebrew name was. Lol.) Our rabbi looked up any names we weren't sure of for their Hebrew spellings. He also offered to write out our witnesses' names in Hebrew for them to copy off of at the ceremony in case they didn't know how. He did a lot of behind the scenes work on this. He also submitted our marriage license to the town clerk where we were married, which I know is an obligation of the officiant, but it still feels nice knowing that he took care of all of this for us.

When I asked him how much he would charge us, he simply reminded me that we were family. It was so sweet and such a wonderful gift!

Are you wanting to invite him just because he counseled y'all? If so, then I probably wouldn't. But if you are wanting to invite him because he is your pastor that y'all are close with, then that would be okay. We invited our counselor (our pastor) & his wife, but he was also our officiant.

We are doing religious counseling through our church and will be inviting our counselors to our wedding.

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I agree with this! Or the previous person mentioned their counselor was part of their church. I think if you knew them beforehand, it would be a nice gesture. But if you met them specifically for the purpose of counseling you, I maybe wouldn't.

We're having pre marital counseling through our college minister. FH and I met at the college center at church and the minister was highly recommended by other church members. The minister is definitely invited to our wedding!

Our pre-marital counseling was done by the Pastor who will be marrying us and we invited him and his spouse to the reception. I think it's one of those things that's a nice gesture but not necessary.

View Quoted Comment I totally agree. I think it’s a little odd to invite a counselor to any event outside of your session because of their professional boundaries. But if you already have a relationship then that’s less of an issue.