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Cameron
Beginner March 2022

Pre- Marital Counseling

Cameron, on November 29, 2021 at 11:35 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7
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Good morning!!
I hope everyone has a nice holiday. I am writing this just for some opinions. My fiancé and I are christian and are going through pre marital counseling. We have been doing it with the pastor who will be our officiant. We haven’t had a session in a few months and during that time we actually bought a house together. We have a meeting with the pastor and his wife soon & it will probably come up in conversation. How do I bring this up? It’s not uncommon anymore, but I don’t want to feel judged. We are 24 & 25 and getting married in 4 months. Thanks!!

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Latest activity by Ladyray, on November 30, 2021 at 10:47 PM
  • Sharon
    Super September 2021
    Sharon ·
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    I wouldn't worry about it. First, no one should be judging you, even your pastor. Second, you're getting married in 4 months. It's perfectly normal to buy a house together at this point. Congratulations!
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  • Cameron
    Beginner March 2022
    Cameron ·
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    That made me feel better! Thank you ☺️
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    Devoted February 2023
    Elycia ·
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    If your pastor judges you, you should get a new pastor

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  • Cameron
    Beginner March 2022
    Cameron ·
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    Yeah that is a good point.
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    Theresa ·
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    I don't see why you need to mention this to the pastor, but even if it does come up, buying a house together does not necessarily mean that you are both living in it together before you get married. Unless specifically asked, let them think that one of you is living in the house, and the other elsewhere until after you are married.

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  • Katherine
    Expert October 2021
    Katherine ·
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    I wouldn’t worry about it to much. Our pastor knew me and my husband lived together for 2 years before getting married. He said it probably helped since it won’t be a surprise what it would be like for the marriage. You honestly don’t have to tell them either if you don’t want to. They shouldn’t judge anyway
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    Dedicated January 2026
    Ladyray ·
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    Congrats on the house and no worries! Just talk about what you're comfortable talking about and I think most pastors know that many people live together prior to marriage. You're gonna be fine!

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