Did you and your future spouse do pre-marital counseling? I found an officiant that I really like but won't marry us unless we do counseling with her. Both me and my FH don't feel like we need it. We've talked about kids, past relationships, religion, politics, etc. We have lived together for 2 years so bills and money have been discussed. When I brought this up to my FH that the officiant wanted to do this, he just completely shut down and said she just won't marry us and that I should keep looking. He also basically told me that he didn't want a ceremony now because he doesn't understand why someone needs to be there to marry us anyway. We should just go to the courthouse and file the paperwork and then have everyone over for dinner later. I am at a complete loss....