Pre Marital counseling. What to expect?

My Future Mother in Law gave us her blessing... pending this! ^^^ She mentioned that we may discuss roles of husband and wife as set forth in The Bible (making god the centre of your marriage, head of household, submission, obedience, provisions, sexual needs...) HTH!

Counseling isn't just about asking questions. It's about talking to each other. He may ask about anything. What roles do you envision for yourselves- from household chores, to when you raise children, to financial management.

You may talk about things like disagreements, and how you handle them. It all depends on your pastor and the program they use.

Oh ok, thanks ladies! That helps to give some clarity.. I just didnt want him to say Im not gonna marry you because I didnt know this or that.. I just got really nervous about it..

My mom is a pastor and has given us kind of a heads up.. . Finances, whether you plan to have kids, basic analysis of your communication styles (and that you are in fact communicating) depending on the denomination (or lack) there could be more religious/ ideology based questions.

The point of counseling is opening up the lines of ocmmunication. It's to get you two talking about issues you may not have thought about, and giving you the tools to work through problems- because they will arise. No two people always agree on everything. There will be fights. There will be differences of opinion. There will be drama, and family issues at some point. You have to be able to communicate with each other to work through those problems when they occur.

A pastor will probably also include religious things, or course. Like praying together, supporting each other's work in the church (hosting Bible Study, or whatever), reading scripture together.

You all are wonderful!! Thank you! Im excited again lol

Did you all notice all of you who responded have beautiful wedding rings as your profile pictures??

Our counseling sessions are more of him asking us, what do you envision being a problem overcoming? (i.e budgets, chores, children etc) Then he helps us through that, then he is telling us things he wishes someone had told him before he got married. Sunday is our next meeting and he is teaching us how to fight fair. Should be interesting because I only find it fair if I win. lol

Lol At the rings in profile pics! At Mrs. Riley honestly, I had that exact thought... A little scary when we look at it that way! But if they can bring any topic to life NOW that saves me grief later... Amen! (nervous laughter...)

AMEN!!! @CD. And another reason I was all nervous is because a freind of mine had her first marriage counseling session and the pastor they went to for the counseling was kind of judgemental..Basically on more of a religious tip. I do understand the religous aspect that most pastors will bring up but she said he was telling them they werent ready to be married in the first counseling session because they didnt answer certain questions in a "biblical" manner. They were devastated!! But they chose to go with a different officiant and the counseling with this gentleman was more on the way that Nalani mentioned.. He showed them how to love one another and how a huband and wife should be and how to make your marriage work..Soo thats why i was kinda on he scared side lol..

Nalani I love your name and Im hoping our couseling session goes as such, because that actually sounds like fun and interesting!

I was just about to post about this. I was told by one of my married friends the same thing tha Nalani said. My pastor seems to be the understanding kind so i dont see her being too judgemental. Me and FH's session is supposed to be Thursday but due to the new responsibilities at his job we have to reschedule which is a headache because my schedule is no better. I just wanted to get this over with but more importantly learn as much as we can when it comes to our future together

I'm a little nervous about our counseling. I had no idea what to expect. We should start sometime mid April.....eek! Lol.

It was so helpful to read through these comeents! My fiancé and I have our first premarital counseling tomorrow night, and I'm nervous I'll be caught off guard.

It was so helpful to read through these comeents! My fiancé and I have our first premarital counseling tomorrow night, and I'm nervous I'll be caught off guard.