So my FI has a good friend (he's my friend too but not quite as close) doing an work abroad thing for about 3 years on the other side of the world. He's almost finished 2 years and will be 9 months from finishing completely by the time our wedding rolls around. He doesn't get paid very much because its more a volunteer/life experience kind of thing. We really would love to ask him to be a GM at our wedding. However, we don't want him to feel he has to come if we ask him as the plane ticket prices are crazy high for his kind of job and we can't afford to fly him over ourselves either.
Would it be kinder not to ask him and put that kind of pressure to be there on him?
Or would it be best to ask him to be some kind of "groomsman in absentee" and how would we best recognize that in our wedding?
