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Postponing/canceling

Kate, on July 6, 2020 at 6:55 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 19
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Hey brides!


How do you feel about postponing/canceling during these trying times? Clearly doing either really, really sucks but if a wedding can’t happen due to things being closed or for safety reasons that’s totally understandable. I recently postponed mine from August to October (I know not a long postponement) hoping things will be open for us in October. Unfortunately we can’t cancel since we won’t get our money back and as we all know, money for a wedding isn’t something we can all easily make up again, or afford to lose. I’ve been getting a lot of negativity in regards to not just canceling but again-I can’t be out that money, if I could get it back, I totally would cancel and just do this at a different time. Due to the location of my wedding we can’t easily postpone to next year either but if our October date doesn’t work we’ll have to figure that out when that happens. Just wondering how others are feeling/handling things.

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Latest activity by Melissa, on July 8, 2020 at 8:24 PM
  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
    Kristen ·
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    What would keep you from going forward with the wedding? What do you want? I think I am the oddball but I would keep the wedding even if just my FH and I. I know weddings with all your loved ones there is awesome but during this time I would just want to be married even if with only a few guests in attendance. Are you able to do an intimate wedding?

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  • Brandi
    Devoted July 2020
    Brandi ·
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    Honestly, it’s a difficult decision to make and only you and your partner can decide. There’s a part of me that says, “Covid isn’t going away” and in some sense, we have to adjust. But, another part that says, “Covid is real” and we shouldn’t put people at risk. We’re marrying in September (we pushed ours up from November 2020 to September 2020). We will cancel if our venue/state makes us (we’re in PA). Outside of that everything is a go. We expect that those who won’t feel comfortable won’t come and those who do feel comfortable will. Unfortunately, it’s not the best of situations but the best of what we could make of this situation. I hope it helps.
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  • K
    Savvy March 2050
    Kate ·
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    We want to get married sooner rather than later since we’ve postponed from August already, but what will keep us is borders being closed since it is overseas in the country I am from/grew up in.
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  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa ·
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    It's certainly not an easy decision on whether to postpone, and I don't think there's an overall right answer. I think it truly depends on what you and your fiance feel is best for you and the restrictions where you are. My fiance and I held onto our July 2020 date for as long as possible, and then finally decided to postpone. We are in a state where cases are now fairly low, though we had many guests traveling in from states that are seeing large COVID spikes, so we felt it was best for us to postpone. It was a difficult decision and we didn't want to do it, but we felt it was best. Are your vendors/venue willing to let you postpone if borders remain closed? You could do a small ceremony where you're at, and when borders open up, you could do a larger reception at that time?
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  • K
    Savvy March 2050
    Kate ·
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    Yes, we postponed from August to October but had trouble getting a date as everyone has postponed as well, not sure we will even get a date next year when we want since people are postponing and their hurricane season starts this Nov-April so that limits when we can have a wedding.
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  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa ·
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    Ah, that makes sense. My fiance and I had to postpone to 2022 since our venue has extremely limited availability for next year because of everyone before us trying to postpone to next year too. I know it's a long ways away, but is postponing to 2022 an option for you? That way, your venue will likely have a lot more availability, and hopefully COVID will be way calmed down by then? Sorry that you're having to go through this!
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  • K
    Savvy March 2050
    Kate ·
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    I wish! But unfortunately it’s not an option for us, not even sure our contract would go that far, I know our photo contract won’t, since we paid for everything last July. But thanks for the thought!
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  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
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    I am not an expert but if the borders are closed that is not your fault. I would think they would refund based on that alone. What are their reasonings? If you cannot travel then how can they keep your money. I would understand if you could travel and choose not to but that is not right.

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  • Melissa
    Savvy September 2020
    Melissa ·
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    Hey! Well we live in NY and had a wedding date of 10/17/20 in Florida, a lot of money has already been paid also otherwise I would cancel and do it closer to home. We rescheduled for 9/18/21. That was a decision my fiancé and I made, I really wouldn’t care about other people’s opinions as to what I should or shouldn’t do. There’s no way I’m losing all that money by canceling. I’m not upset about having to reschedule, it is what it is. Now we have more time to save more money.
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  • K
    Savvy March 2050
    Kate ·
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    That’s just what our contract stated, we signed the contract knowing if something came up it was non refundable but we signed well before Covid, it’s just what it is, and not something we can get upset over or fight.
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  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
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    Hmmmm which country is it may I ask? I am sure like anyone you did not expect this to last as long or any of this to happen. Oh that would suck if you cannot go or get your money back. I personally would not encourage postponing but in your situation I would just not to lose out on money. I hate to say that but like you said you cannot afford to lose that money.

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    Dedicated September 2021
    Sarah ·
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    We can't afford to cancel (Sept 19 2020). If our venue is open, we'll be having it, regardless of restrictions. I'm trying to take it a week at a time and not get upset/overwhelmed and prepare as if everything will be happening on schedule.

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  • K
    Savvy March 2050
    Kate ·
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    One step at a time is kinda the way we’re taking it. When we found out we couldn’t go in August we postponed but for October since we don’t really want to wait anymore than we already have (1yr) with everything being planned and paid for. If our October date doesn’t work out then we’ll have to wait till early next summer, unfortunately. I hope your date goes thru, but I completely get not being able to cancel, and wish more people were more understanding too. Not an easy situation for us brides
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  • Sarah
    Dedicated October 2021
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    We recently postponed from October 2020 to May 2021. It really sucked at first – no ifs, ands, or buts about it. But after the first couple of days, the sadness turned into MASSIVE relief. We were both so tired of living with the uncertainty and anxiety. I had stopped updating our wedding countdown, because watching the wedding coming closer (with no real change to the COVID situation) was making me so stressed. When I thought about the wedding, I mainly felt distress – and that's not how I wanted to feel about my wedding. Now I'm back to feeling excited and joyful about my wedding again! We've had several people reach out and thank us for making the decision, and we're happy to have done so. It's worth it for the stress reduction alone.

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  • Erin
    Expert August 2020
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    I also see a ton of previous brides stating they would cancel and stating current brides were selfish for not cancelling. I guarantee if they were in our shoes, they wouldn’t be so quick to lose out on thousands of dollars and call it quits. Carry on and have that wedding you deserve!
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  • Trisha
    Super October 2020
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    Mine Is In October In Virginia And We Are Still Planning As Normal. We Have No Intentions Of Canceling Or Postponing Unless The Venue Makes Us. Just Plan Accordingly And Hopefully You Will Have A Great Wedding Smiley heart

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  • T
    Super April 2021
    Tiger Bride ·
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    I would push on this. If borders are closed, they're closed. Most contracts didn't account for something like coronavirus.

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  • L
    Savvy July 2021
    Lauren ·
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    We were supposed to be getting married this weekend, but postponed to July 11, 2021 and feel much better. I have friends who are moving forward with their weddings this summer, and I am MOH in one of them, however, I am a little anxious. She is definitely taking steps to keep social distance measure and will be providing masks, which I 100% appreciate because I am feeling uneasy about being with a group of people.

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  • Melissa
    Savvy September 2020
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    Yeah I feel much better about rescheduling.
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