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Postponing your wedding.

Samantha, on January 20, 2020 at 1:08 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 6

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This past weekend my fiance and I got to talking about our wedding which we set the date for April 3rd, 2021 in St thomas, usvi. We are working on finding and buying our first home together and he doesnt think we can manage both. He has been adamant about pushing the wedding off another year, and I reluctantly (and slightly drunkenly) agreed. I know this is the right thing in the long run because it will give us more time and there wont be so much stress with two major things going on so close together, but I brought my wedding dress home last week. I had gone a few months ago just to look, no plans of buying anything, but I put one on and it was the one. So now I have my dream dress sitting in my closet reminding me every day that everything I've planned so far was a waste of time. I'm really sad and dont know how to process this whole thing. I know it's for the best but I cant help but feel really disappointed. Anyone else go through the same thing and how did you handle it?

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Latest activity by Florida Marlins, on January 20, 2020 at 9:10 PM

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Kristen · on January 20, 2020 at 1:13 PM
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I am so sorry. Sadly weddings are expensive. I will ask you how important it is to have a big lavish wedding? You could have something small and intimate now with close friends and family and a small reception and maybe some time later have a vow renewal that is larger.
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Samantha · on January 20, 2020 at 1:18 PM
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The wedding itself was going to be very small and intimate which is why we chose destination because it worked out to be cheaper than a wedding around where we live. I know in the long run it's the right financial decision, it just sucks to have all these plans and now nothing. Kinda just disappointed
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Master November 2020
Kristen · on January 20, 2020 at 1:23 PM
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Rightfully so. My FH and I are planning a wedding and taking our two friends out for dinner for $1200 which is highly affordable. I am not sure where you live but I am sure you can find a cheaper type of venue even if a park. I would sit down with FH and tell him how you feel and work on a compromise where you get your ceremony and you both get the home. I think for some people weddings are much more meaningful so they cannot comprehend. My FH does not see why spend so much on one day which is why we kept it local and very low key. I would have spent a little more but making what we have work.
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Mrs. S · on January 20, 2020 at 1:25 PM
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We decided to postpone buying a house. Because we don’t mind being married living an apt and buying a house later but we wanted to have the wedding.
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Jasmine · on January 20, 2020 at 1:28 PM
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That's unfortunate. FH and I were forced to completely cancel the wedding we were planning and lost a lot of money. It still upsets me because it was something that could have been avoided but what's done is done.

Now, since we took such a hit, we're looking into something smaller and more simple and even local. Our plan was California but we're gonna stay in Vegas now. We found a venue that offers an elopement package for up to 30 guests.
You can always do something like that that would be more manageable for you guys. You can have like a little reception in an event center or private dining in a restaurant. Even if you wait it out another year, it'll be worth it and more carefully planned out to get what you truly want.
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Florida Marlins · on January 20, 2020 at 9:10 PM
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We postponed from our original date of 10/1/16 to 10/7/17 and I have no regrets. It was mutual as there were a lot of things pointing to postponing, namely I wanted to launch my younger child off to college, I had been divorced and well......waiting and being 100% sure made sense to me. A year will fly by!!! You got this girl!!!
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