Postponing wedding

I haven't gone through this, and I can't even begin to imagine how hurt I would be! I am so sorry to hear this, and I am sending positive thoughts your way. I think you guys need to have a serious conversation about marriage, and if this is what he really wants. Couples counseling can be amazing, my FH and I have gone in the past to work through some trust/communication issues, and it was a lifesaver. I hope all works out for you!

I'm so sorry this is happening. My only advice is to take it one day at a time right now. It feels like the end of the world but everything will be okay.

As far as planning goes, when you feel ready, contact all of your vendors and let them know about the postponement. Some may give your deposit back or let you change the date.

Have someone (your mom or siblings, his mom or siblings), not you, contact all your guests and let them know about the change. Since your date is not too far away they might have reservations to cancel.

When things calm down maybe try to talk about an elopement with just immediate family. Then if you want you can have a reception with family and friends.

I am so sorry to hear you’re going through this. This personally has not happened to me, but I can definitely see where you are coming from. My FH and I actually did a courthouse marriage last year and are planning our wedding right now, and I can tell you if I would have known how much stress this wedding would cause me I would have just said forget it and eloped and made the courthouse our actual wedding. It is of course up to the two of you on whether or not you want a big wedding, but in my opinion I would not want to spend all this time trying to plan the wedding AGAIN. Good luck with everything and I hope it all works out for you.

I can't imagine what you're going through. I've spent so much time and money on the wedding so I know it would be heartbreaking. I hope everything works out for you.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for the comment Brianna. We did see a couples therapist twice (and will continue to see her) before he made the decision to still postpone, even though we were steadily getting RSVPs back and cancelled really last minute. He knew my feelings on it and he also knew I wouldn’t want to force someone into a marriage if they aren’t ready. But at the same time, to cancel just weeks before has ruined travel plans, hotel; other expensives, as well as everyone being concerned and worried bc who postpones a wedding with weeks remaining. I’m just so heartbroken and embarrassed that my dream wedding will never happen because I never want to go through with planning another one again.

Sorry to read this. Have you both considered couples counselling? I think it could help both of you in working through these feelings and improve communication and trust. I would look further into the dynamics of your relationship before planning any elopement or wedding. I would feel really hurt and embarrassed as well. Good luck.

Oh sorry, I missed your comment about therapy. Wishing you both the best!

I'm sorry your are going through this. Did he give a good and valid reason as to why? I hope everything works out for you

I would work through on why he wanted to postpone the wedding before you start thinking about eloping or planning another. I would definitely see a counselor.

Happening to me right now. 2 months away and he wants 100 person wedding to become an elopement but that’s not happening. Very difficult situation, I feel for you.

View Quoted Comment Ugh, I’m so sorry! Yeah I’m literally taking each day as it comes and I can be sad/mad/happy/embarrassed all at once. But I guess the truth is that my partner wasn’t ready and instead of letting me know months ago when he felt this way, he put it in the back of his mind and finally said something about it when there was only 45-50 days left until our wedding. I was and still am crushed bc he definitely ruined the process for me and if/when we do get married, I doubt I will be able to go through it all again with planning another wedding the same way. I hope your situation gets better...communication is everything

View Quoted Comment Thanks and we are seeing a counselor once a week...he just wasn’t ready yet and rather than let me know months earlier and before our wedding invitations went out, he kept it inside and told me when we were 45-50 days out