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Postponing to next year advice?

Amanda, on May 18, 2020 at 8:46 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 13
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Hi everyone!


So I live in MA and I am sooo torn on what to do for my August wedding. We have just begun phased reopening today but I can’t help but be nervous about not only the wedding but everything that comes along with it!! I am torn between two options, 1 I could postpone my wedding till next June but I am afraid of this happening again or 2. I could carry on with my wedding this year but I probably won’t get to do all the fun wedding things like bridal shower and bachelorette. What is everyone doing during this crazy time?! Should I hold off until next month to decide? Let me know your thoughts!

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Latest activity by Amanda, on May 19, 2020 at 10:05 AM
  • Nefetera
    VIP March 2015
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    I woukd suggest maybe elope now and then next year have a bigger event which can be considered "vow renewal" or 1st year reception". As far as bridal showers ...i know you can do a virtual event and ppl can send you gifts. Next year if you wanted to you can always do a bachalorette event...
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  • Nefetera
    VIP March 2015
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    Would****!
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  • Anais
    Dedicated May 2021
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    Personally I postponed so that I could do all the things I wanted with the hopes that I won’t have too many restrictions next year. It’s giving me more time to plan and add more details that I probably would not have had time to do. But it totally depends on how long you have already been planning and waiting too.
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  • Kathryn
    VIP August 2020
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    Deep breaths! I would say that you should give it a bit more time to see how things work out, but really we have no idea how things are going. I saw a thread somewhere that was like "People need to plan for shorter engagements" and I kind of agree with that view point. I personally would go ahead according to your state guidelines at that time. We postponed once, and now we're still not sure what August is going to look like. I would either trim down to an elopement and have your big event next year, or go ahead with as many guests as you feel comfortable with. Not to be doom and gloom, but things can change so fast. No one can give you certainty on a decision, but if the big events are important than you might want to elope and have your big event next year.
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  • Chrysta
    Rockstar November 2022
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    We postponed our November wedding until next year. Unfortunately, I do not see being able to have a “normal” wedding at all this year. And we didn’t want to have to cut our guest list down or worry about social distancing, wearing masks, etc at our wedding, or not being able to dance & party at our reception. If you are thinking of rescheduling, I’d probably do it ASAP because weekend dates for vendors are filling up FAST with the thousands of weddings being postponed
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  • Amanda
    Dedicated June 2021
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    Yes that is very true! We have been waiting 2.5 years so it reallt is killing me to go another year lol
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  • Amanda
    Dedicated June 2021
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    Yes your right, things are literally changing everyday and I see so many different things I don’t even know what to believe. I am gonna hold out for a little longer and we’ll see what happens by June
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  • Kathryn
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    Honestly, my father in law who is a doctor warned us that things won't be the same until we get a vaccine more than likely, but you don't know. Texas is pretty much on the verge of going back to normal - my husband and I passed a full on pool party earlier - so really, who knows? By next year you still might not be able to have the wedding you wanted. So you have to decide what's most important: getting married and moving on with this milestone, or having the big traditional event? We agreed that a social distanced wedding is fine, and things might be much better by August. No one knows.
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  • Anais
    Dedicated May 2021
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    Yeah so I understand if you didn’t postpone because it’s been awhile. You’re practically or completely done with the planning process.
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  • Super August 2020
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    Hi! I'm in MA, too. We were planning to make the call on our August 8th wedding after the announcement came out, but it really didn't offer the clarity we were expecting. I'm inclined to postpone, but without an actual gathering limit, we have to see what our venue thinks about that. We're going to get married on 8/8 either way, but we might postpone the reception.
    I think it's better to make a choice sooner rather than later, because you'll get more excited as it gets closer, so having to change things (either postponing or accepting major changes to the plans to you've worked on for so long) will only get more painful. I think my bridal shower is still happening (as some kind of parade/zoom meeting combo), but bachelor/ette the parties will be next year.
    Also, there's a chance the virus will be back/still here next year, but it probably won't be as bad. Phase 4 won't start until there's a vaccine or reliable treatment, which means that anything that happens this year will have to include social distancing and face masks.
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  • Amanda
    Dedicated June 2021
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    Yes I agree we really got no information, I have a soft hold date for next year but I am unsure if I really wanna wait another year (we’ve already waited 2.5 years). I’m gonna wait till June to see if we get any more concrete answers and if not I’ll have to make my decisions. Wish you the best of luck on your big day!
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  • Super August 2020
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    Thanks, good luck to you too! I've been looking through the state website to see if there's anyone I can contact to ask about this directly. I'll let you know if I find anything!
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  • Amanda
    Dedicated June 2021
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    Yes please! I saw some
    People asking him on twitter but of course no response.
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