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Angela
Beginner July 2021

Postponing Problems

Angela, on January 20, 2021 at 6:44 PM Posted in Planning 0 15
I’m less than six months away from my wedding in July. Even with some restrictions possibly lifted, it seems as though having a “normal” wedding is not possible (with no dancing, masks, etc.). Additionally, we have many family members and friends who have to travel to attend, making it difficult to know what those restrictions will be. My vendors are very optimistic that everything will be fine by July, but optimism is not a guarantee. When I asked my venue and one of my vendors about postponing, I was met with, yes, you can postpone but we need more money or another deposit, etc. It’s been very difficult for our parents, my fiancé, and I to be willing give these places more money when they have been closed for business, difficult to get a hold of, and with the economy not being so great, possibly going out of business by the time we get to our postponed wedding date.


I’m very stressed out about what to do as it seems like any options we take, we lose out on money and the dream wedding we want. There’s so many risks! We can either cancel and lose all of the deposits, postpone and pay the venue and vendors more money with the hopes they stay in business (plus covid restrictions going away), or go through with the wedding this year and deal with the restrictions. We are truly at a loss on what to do. Is anyone else going through something similar? Any suggestions or advice?

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Latest activity by Angela, on June 19, 2021 at 8:31 AM
  • Katie
    VIP August 2020
    Katie ·
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    Hi Angela! We got married last August 2020 and I too thought we were doomed. We went forward with the restrictions and moved everything outdoors. We truly loved it. It surpassed my expectations from our original wedding plan. If you decide to move forward, just know it can be done, can be beautiful and still special. ❤️🌼🌸
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  • JM Sunshine
    August 2020
    JM Sunshine ·
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    My daughter also had her wedding in August and more than half of her 85 guests travelled from out of state. All Covid precautions were in place and it was a lovely day. I think one thing we learned this year is that there are no guarantees. I don't think "normal" weddings will happen for quite some time (I heard someone on the news say we could be wearing masks for another 2- 3 years), so I think as long as your venue is open and your wedding is allowed with the numbers you have, then go for it!
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  • RaylaSan
    Expert February 2021
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    I think you should move forward, my wedding is next month and things already seem so hopeless, but my venue was pretty firm with me and said, "All is good". Honestly, my fiancee and I changed our venue for the third time when it seemed like our second venue was so close to cancelling on us (back in October). It was an extremely hard and stressful decision, as we were told flat out, "Either stay with us and hope for the best, or get a refund". We got a refund and went venue searching for a more "private" venue, that is lax with their restrictions, but are still allowing events to be held as long as people wear masks, etc. Now we're stuck in a contract where only the venue can cancel on us, or we risk not getting any money back. It was the risk my fiancee and I took to have the wedding of our dreams, and here we are going ham (safely). Truth be told, several of our guests are having qualms about going, but we made our bed. Plan confidently, and do what needs to be done to have the wedding of your dreams. However, don't expect to have a maskless event anytime soon.

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  • M
    Just Said Yes May 2022
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    Yes we are going thru same issues, wedding is April 2021 but our venue also has COVID restrictions, no dancing, masks, earlier ending time just not the wedding we planned or dreamed of. We are going to postpone until next year and all my vendors have been very understanding except for our Dj entertainment they want another large deposit to hold the new date which I don’t agree with because it’s not like I’m hiring them new, I’m already a signed customer soo why do I have to give more non refundable or transferable money, these circumstances are not in our control, I would think they would be more flexible during this horrible time. I feel your frustration hope things work out for you. Good luck!!
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  • J
    Expert May 2021
    Jaime ·
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    We postponed from last year and are going to make a go of it in May. We are coming to terms with it not being what we envisioned, but who knows how long you will have to keep pushing it out for it to be traditional. We have the restrictions like many other areas right now (25% capacity, no dance floor, must be seated during the event) so we are swapping out the DJ for a dueling pianos show. We figure the dueling pianos can entertain everyone if we have to be seated and if restrictions lift, they can get us dancing. It stinks all around and you just have to make the best decision for yourself.

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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
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    My FH decided to cancel and just elope. Less stress and money
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  • Carolyn
    Savvy October 2021
    Carolyn ·
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    I feel exactly as you do when thinking about what to do about the wedding we already postponed from September 2020 to October 2021. It feels like a loss either way. I can not imagine spending the astronomical amount that wedding costs on a day that is not exactly what we envisioned....it makes more sense to just change it all and pay less... 😞 or maybe postpone again? I’m not sure. Best of luck to you! ❤️
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  • Jess
    Devoted May 2021
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    We are moving forward with our wedding in May. We postponed from September and are just tired of being in the wedding planning phase for almost 2 years. Our venue is being a little more lenient though.. not requiring, but encouraging masks + we can have a dance floor. Our guest list will need to be slightly reduced, but I've just accepted that our day will not be totally as I had originally envisioned.

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  • L
    Savvy May 2021
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    Hi friend! In the same exact boat with a June wedding. However, our vendors have been wonderful and have allowed us to hold a soft back up date in 2022. We haven’t rescheduled one already yet, so I understand if people have from 2020 and are ready to just keep it and move forward in 2021. It’s all personal choices. We have been together 9 years and PERSONALLY feel no rush to get married this year. What’s important to us is that we can have our family and friends there with us, worry free. That all may change for us in 2022 if things aren’t improved (hello back yard wedding!). Again, it’s just all personal choices and opinions. And it IS stressful, so I empathize and I’m sorry your vendors are making it trickier.


    While I respect some folks saying “who even knows if 2022 won’t be great!”, I think with the huge accomplishment of a vaccine, treatments, and a whole lot more research being done than what was able to be done in 2020 will make things a whole lot better in months to come, this year, next and so on. I work in health care! Let’s all remain positive and logical. Best of luck to you and your future husband!
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  • Megan
    Beginner August 2021
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    I am having the same exact issues, only I postponed until august 2021. Can I ask you specifically if you were able to have your dress held from your dress vendor? I am having (on top of everything else) major issues with my dress vendor holding onto my dress...

    My wedding venue would not refund anything, made it very difficult to get a Saturday night (what we had originally) and has been completely horrible to work with. Finally, we found an agreeable date and now it seems like even August 2021 will not be a "sure thing" But now my major issue is with all the other vendors & my dress vendor specifically being very difficult...

    It's honestly all been so stressful I have dreamed of cancelling all together but would be out so much money I cannot...All the best!

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  • L
    Beginner July 2021
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    I am moving my wedding into 2022. It was originally scheduled for summer 2021. I feel pretty confident with vaccines and herd immunity that 2022 will be back to normal. I can't say the same thing for the rest of 2021.

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  • Randi
    Just Said Yes July 2021
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    I totally understand how you feel. We postponed from July 10th 2020 to July 10 2021 our wedding is in the next state over meaning all of our family and friends would have to travel. I can not see paying so much money for a wedding that people wont be able to dance and enjoy themselves and have some drinks. We are stuck in our contract unless our vendor cancels on us they will not refund us any money. I work as a firefighter paramedic and I am 6 months pregnant. After we postponed our wedding last year we had a backyard bbq marriage because we are getting older and were thinking about having kids and then it happened.......I have been stressing out non stop about being due in April and now having a wedding in July and then covid and the restrictions.....we decided that we will not stress for now hope for the best and that things get better by end of Feb beginning of March if they are worse then we are going to cancel and get a lawyer to try and get some of our money back if they are better we are going to wing it and do what we can to have the wedding we want.


    I am sorry everyone is going through this but thank you for posting because I know I am not the only one but its comforting to see people are having the same issues and its not just us. And it is nice to vent to people who are going through the same thing because they understand. My family says your already married and having a kid just cancel and I am like we already sunk 12,000 into this venue and they wont give us anything back. We even asked for just half like keep 6 grand and that will be fine.... nope nothing wont give us any money back.


    I sincerely hope for all our sakes this gets better. This was not suppose to be sooo long but I got typing and here it is.... Good luck with everything and at the end of the day it is what it is.

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  • Lori
    Just Said Yes July 2021
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    Yes! We had our originally date of August 21st, 2020 and had to postpone to July 30th, 2022. Out venue made us pay 4000 to move into a new year! We talked to a lawyer and the contract was written to benefit the venue only. Lesson learn to look for a pandemic clause! Maybe check into wedding insurance?! am so upset but nothing we can do! We hope by July everything will be somewhat normal. I wish you luck!!!
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  • Angela
    Beginner July 2021
    Angela ·
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    Thanks to everyone who replied! It’s nice to know that we are not alone during these challenging times. We decided to go through with the wedding this year and see what happens. Our state just announced that we will be able to have our full guest count as long as our guests test negative. No matter what happens, we will make the day special and work with whatever obstacles come our way. I hope all of your wedding plans go well with whatever you decide. Smiley heart
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  • Angela
    Beginner July 2021
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    Thank you to all those who responded. As an update, we did not postpone and are able to have our dream wedding day with no restrictions!!
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