Postponing April 25th Wedding

I have been crying for the last week and boy did I cry yesterday. With the new regulations we are trying to figure out what to do for our April 17th wedding. that caused a big argument last night that meant more crying. I'm at work now and started shedding tears twice. So devastated!

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I have been in and out of the bathroom at work all day today girl! So sorry you are going through this too. You'll have to comment with whatever decision you make. It's certainly not an easy one to make.

Same here calling all my vendors and postponing. Honestly I am disappointed but not upset. My father, mother in law, and grandparents on both sides would not be able to attend if we went forward and it is important for our guests to be safe and healthy. We are setting a new date for late august hopefully we dont have to postpone again.

We found out yesterday that we have to reschedule our wedding... our new wedding date is 10/31/20. The venue transferred all our date and aren't charging us since this is a natural disaster that's out of our control. I'm sending you positive thoughts!

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That's so true! Keeping everyone safe and healthy is the top priority. Fingers crossed August works for you!

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That is good that your venue isn't charging you. Ours is offering free date transfers or full refunds too. Halloween wedding, here you come!

Date twin here! I’ve been crying for the past 4 days. We’re doing the same...having a small ceremony on our original date. I mean, I would like to say that nothing matters as long as I get to marry my best friend. But the truth is after spending over a year and a half planning for this perfect day, it’s just devastating.

We moved our 5/9 wedding to 8/1 just this morning, and our vendors have been nothing but helpful and gracious! We are going to the courthouse on our original date, and our big party just has to wait a few months!

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Totally agree! I hope you find a new date for your reception so you can still do all you've planned!

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Thank you I hope you are able to find another date and its okay to cry and be disappointed this is something many of us have been playing for months and years.

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Yay! Glad it is all working itself out. I'm torn between a courthouse wedding or a small ceremony on our original date...

View Quoted Comment Thanks! We have a few dates coordinated with vendors so we’ll have to lock that in soon.

GIRL! I am crying right there with you! Same wedding date (in San Diego, CA) & thinking along the same lines. I'm absolutely shattered over this & my heart goes out to all other brides also going through this.


We are thinking of eloping on our chosen wedding date & having a symbolic ceremony & reception next spring. I'm having a hard time imagining having a reception a year later, I've honestly been back & forth a lot on just canceling all together to get our money back (hopefully) & still continue with eloping. I have no idea what to do :/

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Ugh I am sending you love After thinking about it for a bit, I think we might elope on our date and have a formal ceremony on the same day that we move the reception to. It's all hard to imagine!! We will figure this out!

My biggest problem is that my FH and I do not live together. We are moving into a house my parents own and will be renting us. We both come from really old fashioned families so they would not be happy if we just moved in together without marriage especially over a roof my mother owns. So on top of me really wanting to marry the love of my life I also want to be able to live with him and not my parents. I moved back in only because I knew I had an exist date.

What I would like to do is still have my church ceremony on April 17th. The church is large enough that some family can still attend and keep distant. ("Events of any size should only be continued if they can be carried out with adherence to guidelines for protecting vulnerable populations, hand hygiene, and social distancing.") We would not expect all 200 people to drive to Burbank just to see the ceremony but at least our parents and my grandmother could be there. Maybe we could set up a live stream for those who cannot attend. If we can't open it up then just limit it to parents and siblings. After the ceremony only have our parents and siblings come to our place and have a dinner for a mini reception. In a year renew our vows and throw the reception we originally planned. FH just wants to get married civilly and do the church thing when everyone can go but I can't stomach losing the one condition I had for getting married, the church. Between the two of us I am the only one left with a grandparent. She is about to turn 89 and I want her to see me get married in a church. I hope she lives for many more years but that isn't promised to us.

UGH! For all I know I may not be allowed to do any of that and I will be stuck getting married by a quickly online certified family member. I hate the what ifs, I hate not knowing. I just want to wake up from this to find out it was all a nightmare. There shouldn't have to be this many sacrifices for what should be the happiest moment in our lives. I am so angry with the world right now. I am usually a sunny and optimistic person but I am having trouble finding my happy.

ok I think it's time I shut up that was a long rant. As everyone keeps reminding me it could be worse I should be happy we are still alive and healthy

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Ugh that is so tough! I'm so sorry! What we decided we are going to do is have a small ceremony with just our parents and photographer in the church on our original date and then we will have a formal ceremony / vow renewal in the church again and reception on our postponed date (August 1st). I think that what you have planned would work and you could still have your small church ceremony. How many siblings do you have your FH have? We have to exclude our siblings which will be tough for us, but we are going to record the ceremony and have a little reception with our parents and siblings at my FMIL's house. It's hard to be happy and optimistic in this craziness, but we have this platform to support each other!

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We will have out small church ceremony with only my parents, brother, grandmother, and 5 aunts and uncles on my side, my MOH his parents, brother sister and spouses, 1 uncle, and his BF and his mother. The priest said he would work with 30 people if we wanted but we won't risk it. All of these people at the church will be invited back to our place for a small dinner and we will have our first dance but that's all. My MOH already said she probably wouldn't do that portion though. She knows she can distance herself in a large church but not in a small house and she has an asthmatic daughter to worry about.

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I'm glad you got it figured out!