Postponing? Anyone getting pushback?

So sorry you’re going through this! I completely understand and agree with you, I wouldn’t feel safe having a big blowout on NYE either. And I commend you for taking your guests’ health into consideration! We rescheduled our wedding also for the same reasons. We did not have any pushback from our venue though– they readily rescheduled our date for us with no complaints or fees. However, we rescheduled pretty early on (rescheduled beginning of April for our November wedding), so that may have something to do with it. It seems like a lot of vendors were way more understanding and accommodating at the beginning of the pandemic. Now, Americans seem to have the attitude of “It’s overblown” or “I’m not going to live in fear” and are just living their lives as though the virus doesn’t exist. Because it is looking more & more like “life as usual”, I think vendors are becoming less accommodating with reschedules and cancellations. Plus, they have probably lost a lot of money over the past 6 months and are not wanting to lose any more.

Ugh, that’s so frustrating. I understand it may be hard on their part as they’re taking a loss this year but still...a lot of venues are being accommodating and understanding. Fortunately we did not have any issues with rescheduling with our venue and I’m so glad we did. Have you looked at your contract to see if there is a cancellation or reschedule policy?

Wow, I'm sorry you are going through this. Definitely check your cancellation/reschedule policy. I feel like some venues at least let you postpone at no charge, or not too much additional charge. But with some states lifting restrictions, your venue may believe it can still host the event, though with limited amount of guests. It's a huge pain in the butt.

That's so frustrating that they're not letting you postpone! I feel like it would be better for them to let you reschedule now because then your date is available for someone else, but they probably want to wait to see if there are restrictions or if they believe it would be unsafe. I would ask them how they handled COVID related postponements in the spring/summer to get an idea of the timeline on making this decision (with them, obviously you can decide not to celebrate this year without them) and what hoops they made earlier 2020 brides jump through.

View Quoted Comment Thanks! I keep re-reading our contract and there’s no clause that explicitly prohibits postponement, most likely because nobody could have predicted a global pandemic like this. However, I’m not sure that the absence of this clause could help or hinder our request to postpone, so I’m having some of my family take a look as well. 😬

View Quoted Comment Good luck! Let us know how it turns out

Yep. Yep. Yep. Us. 🙋‍♀️ We're in Texas, and our venue said we couldn't postpone because they were fine. With my in laws unable to travel for obvious reasons, they wouldn't let us change the date a second time (we were originally 4/4). And since our wedding was basically paid off, we enjoyed the chaos of what vendors would let us move the date again and who insisted on us keeping the date, and the venue was on the second side. So we ended up having a minimony with six guests and our officiant, live streamed. And still planning a bigger ceremony later. 🙄 I will gladly badmouth our venue - they should have worked with us. Its been nothing but a struggle bus. Good luck! You may want to check with a lawyer what your options are.