Postponing... Again?

I think you should do what you want: whatever works best for you as a couple and whatever is going to cause you the least amount of stress and let you have the wedding you want. If that means postponing again, your family and friends will understand! I know a couple brides who had to postpone twice now; it was emotional for them, but they got through it and have new dates they're happy with.

You also do have time between now and December and it's perfectly reasonable to wait and see, if you'd rather.

I would caution changing dates so often it may create tension between you and the vendors. When they are already dealing with brides in March , April, May, and June postponing. It’s too early to estimate what’s going to happen. You already postponed eagerly to a new date. Now you feel insecure about the new date bc it’s too soon to predict these things. I would wait til august/September to see how life is and see which date makes the most sense.

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I don't care what my vendors think. I'm concerned about my family and friends having a good time and feeling at ease being there. And when I changed my date in February (from September to December) they were already booked solid through Summer 2021. So if we wait until September to decide to postpone then we're looking waaaaayyyyy down the road.

View Quoted Comment I’m in a lot of wedding group. Vendors are kind are first ,but once brides start postponing multiple times they start charging fees. Holding deposits. Then you’re arguing about your money all day and weddings aren’t cheap. My venue allow rebooking only 60 days in advance which I think is fair so brides like myself who’s wedding was supposed to be in March has priority over brides later on in the year. Regardless I would wait to there’s more information about fall/winter 2020 before You have rebook and and postpone again. Currently no one knows

I would not change it at this point. December is still awhile away and to be frank- if weddings aren't happening in December whose to say they will be happening in spring 2021 even? I would wait longer to make a decision and hopefully by then you (and all of us) will have a better sense of when it will be *safe* in 2021.

Hi Erica,

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I have to agree with Jayla here! December is so far away at this point and things are changing daily. I would keep open ways of communication with your vendors so they can update you on any changes on their end.

I would hate for you to rack up additional charges due to postponing your wedding again. If I were in your shoes, I would plan as normal and start considering a plan c. If things aren't better by then, are you okay with cutting your guests list down?

If the financial strain of this pandemic prevents some of your guests from attending, will you be OK with their absence? Will waiting until 2021 guarantee their presence? You can't control anyone's circumstances, of course, so maybe you could take an informal poll of the family and friends that you most want to see at your wedding. Their responses may help you decide your next step. In the end, you should make the decision that feels right for you.

Sending lots of love your way!