Postponing a wedding

We had to push our date back 2 months because of FH custody agreement. Ex-wife wanted us to have the kids in June after she found out about the wedding. FH talked to his lawyer and she can't pull another fast one. The dates are locked in. I'm sorry you have to push your wedding back, but I feel it's a small sacrifice to have the ceremony you want. Plus you'll have the rest your lives together.

I postponed my wedding a year, and wondered how I was going to feel on my would have been wedding day.

turned out, on my would have been wedding day I had the worst cold I have ever heard of.

I can't even imagine if I'd tried to walk down the aisle that day! if you think waiting is best, then I would wait. brides here on WW can be a great help

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If you have not booked venue or vendors yet -- no problem. If you have, ask if they will transfer your deposits to a new date.

If you have not mailed STDs yet -- great. You'll only need to notify a few people of your postponement (I'd imagine immediate family & closest friends).

Thank you all so much for your responses! I will change my picture ASAP. Sorry, I'm on the app and it's a little confusing to navigate!

We pushed our date back a year for various reasons. I had already ordered my dress but I love it so it doesn't matter what year i'm getting married in I still can't wait to wear it. Nothing wrong with pushing the date back if that's what you guys need to do :-) We had not mailed STD or anything like that. We did have our venue, caterer, photographer, videographer, and baker already set. They were also super understanding and just changed the date to a year out. the only penalty was that the venue increased a little the following year but everything stayed exactly the same!

Our original date was March 19, 2016 (so we pushed it back 5 months), having a 20 month long engagement sucked at times (I actually wanted to get married in 2015, it was FH's friends with all their dates taking up most of the second half of 2015 that made that it less of a possibility). But now that we are basically 6 months away it isn't bad. Things are really starting to get finalized. People won't be as excited most of the time, which is a bummer, but when your time come it will be worth it to have what you want.

@Nancy: That's a really cool resource, someone should make a sticky note with it!

I didn't exactly delay it but I had to change my plans from Nov 2014 to July 2015 (long, long story). You'll definitely have to deal with the disappointment, but if you still haven't send STD's or put down payments for anything, then you should be fine. And you'll still get to wear your dress

@Del. do you mean postpone as in, you already have stuff booked for a date and need to move it or postpone as in you have a date in your mind but now want to change it?

If it's the former, then you'll need to contact vendors and see if you can move your deposit to another date and make sure they are open. If you just had a date in mind and want to change, check with your VIPS (parents, sibs, wedding party) to make sure it works and then let them know the new date.

@NowASeptMrs: it's more of the date I had in mind. All i have bought so far is the dress. Right now we're looking at venues. Some of my family members, since they live overseas, have bought plane tickets/asked for days off at work already so I'm dreading a little having to change the date because of that.

We were going to get married 7-2-15 but it didn't work out. I informed everyone as soon as I knew there was no way we could afford a wedding with all our other stuff. I called the very important people first and then post it on my Event page and asked my guest to inform those not on social media. Worked out for the best

@Del - If you really want a fall wedding, you could push your date back a whole year. Not sure if you want to wait that long, but it may be worth it if you are trying to save up money (school and student loans definitely make it difficult!).

How many people have bought plane tickets? That seems really far in advance to buy, so I'm guessing not too many have done so yet, and hopefully the airline(s) will be nice about refunding since it's so far out. I'd recommend deciding soon though and letting your guests know ASAP.

Good luck with everything!

Curious about advice on possibly postponing my wedding I have been so excitedly planning for months! I was in a serious car accident a few weeks ago and had surgery, have 3-4 more months of rehab ahead of me and my wedding is 10/1. We did send our STD's but obviously if I am not well then who wants to risk the possibility of not feeling well for the biggest weekend of their life ? I am just concerned with vendors, hotel blocks etc. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!