Postponing a wedding

All that happened to you seriously blows i hope good things start happening if they haven't already. When it rains it pours they say
I don't know what I'd do in your situation but I have noticed that weddings do add a lot of stress even when financial portion is not problematic. I'd focus on getting on track with money and jobs and getting a car and breathing a little before committing to a venture that a wedding is. Esp since you are set on having a wedding "you want". Give yourself a break

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your response, thing are getting better bit by bit. I dont know why it's so hard to make that final decision to postpone. It's not like I'm cancelling it, but it's still impossible to do right now. I'm sure I'll ultimately make it though.

I'm sorry. I sort of understand what you are going through. I lost my job 3 months before our wedding. We had discussed possibly postponing, but we would have lost a ton of money because of how close the wedding was. My family helped us cover some of the costs and we also used a credit card which wasn't ideal, but we didn't have much choice. The day we got back from our honeymoon my husband was fired. He got a new job a month later, but after working there for three months he was forced to resign on January 3 of this year. He luckily was planning on quitting anyways so he had already started applying before they forced him to quit. We moved to a more expensive apartment after the wedding as well so money have been extremely tight and we haven't been able to pay off the credit card as quickly as we planned. I have also been having some female issues which I've had to go to the doctor's for and spend extra money we don't really have.

View Quoted Comment Wow that's a lot. I'm sorry you had to go through that. I really appreciate your comment! I hope things will brighten up soon for you!

View Quoted Comment He starts new job on Monday. I have been going to the doctor's and hopefully get answers because we really want to have a baby. I hope it all works out for you 😊

Hey, I don't know if this is really helpful to you because you might of already done it. But when it comes to the venue closing and not getting a refund.. is that because you only contacted the venue for the refund? Sometimes, if you reach out to banks and file a dispute - You would advise the bank you paid for a service you were not provided or cannot be provided, the bank can hash it out with the venue and give your money back.

View Quoted Comment I had not thought about that. I think mainly because I was holding out hopes their promises to pay us back would work out. That's definitely a good idea and I will be looking into that! Thank you!

View Quoted Comment No problem! Also, this might sound weird but I think you could always postpone the big ceremony and reception, but get married at a courthouse so you can keep your marriage date you love, and when you're able you could do that perfect ceremony (maybe think renewing vows) / reception you want at a later date.