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Just Said Yes May 2022

Postponements and Covid

Justine, on April 9, 2021 at 4:07 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 10
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We were meant to get married this coming May but because of tbe pandemic we had to postpone our wedding. I have always wanted to get married in May and so we looked into the possibilities of marrying in May 2022. Our venue only gave us availabilities in May. The problem was that my fiance s sister is also getting married in May 2022 and now we are just 1 week apart; ours before theirs. When my fiance told them about this they became angry, verbally violent and threatened that unless we get married on a weekday (it is not popular over here), or in July/August (again it is too hot to get married and my fiance wont feel comfortable) or May 2023 they wont be coming to our wedding. We only postponed because of covid as otherwise we both wish to get married this year as was originally planned. His parents arent helping us financially and arent helping with the wedding planning. Moreover relatives do not have travelling costs as we all live close to each other. We also informed them that we will accept not inviting extended family or extended family friends to our wedding if they prefer to have them only for the sister s wedding. They made us feel as if we shouldn't have the wedding we planned and paid for. They are not talking to each other and even when my fiance had to go to the hospital for an emergency they didnt come or ask him what has happenend. What are your thoughts?

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Latest activity by Eve79, on April 28, 2021 at 10:53 PM
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    Super December 2020
    Anais ·
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    They’re being ridiculous.
    People get one wedding day, not a whole week. Plus, this is such an unusual situation because of COVID that they should be more understanding. Did you guys explain that you didn’t have another choice?
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    Just Said Yes May 2022
    Justine ·
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    Yes my fiance did but they told him that it will be our problem and not theirs if we lose the deposits.
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    Just Said Yes September 2021
    Natalie ·
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    Since y'all were going to get married first anyways they should have known that COVID was going to push back your wedding. Go ahead and get married in May and if they have a problem with it then they can either mover their wedding date or not attend. You don't need drama on your important day.

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    Just Said Yes August 2014
    Eve79 ·
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    I understand if you dont want to confirm this, but something tells me this family is emotionally unhealthy. I suspect that this isn't the first time they have acted this way. Normal, healthy people don't act like this over somebody else's wedding day (especially after everything you have been through with covid postponements!)


    I vote to keep your wedding in May 2022!
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  • Kari
    Master May 2020
    Kari ·
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    I am sorry you are going through this. I can understand that your sister would be upset, but she should also be understanding. You didn't plan anything this way and Covid has ruined a lot of things for a lot of people.

    Is your wedding indoors or outdoors? Would April or June be options that could work (you don't say where you are from)?

    If there is no flexibility at all on your part, then you have the wedding in May a week before your sister's wedding. Her not speaking with you at all, or inquiring about your husband's health, is completely unacceptable and childish, toxic behavior.

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  • Vanessa
    Savvy April 2022
    Vanessa ·
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    Considering you already had a wedding planned for this year and had to postpone due to unforeseen circumstances, they need to chill. They’re being over dramatic. It isn’t that serious and it isn’t your fault when you are postponing. They need to understand that venues for postponed weddings aren’t all that accommodating and you need to take what you can. They should be supportive for the fact that you even need to postpone at all. That’s hard enough to do. If they’re now a week a part and family was coming in for that week anyways, why not just stay a week? People are quick to ask you to accommodate them but won’t consider accommodating you. It’s a damn pandemic, we all need to be patient & understanding with each other. This isn’t your fault and I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. I postponed my May 1st wedding to April 15th 2022. You do what you need to do.
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    Just Said Yes May 2022
    Justine ·
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    May i know what you mean by emotionally unhealthy? In the past yes there were frictions - whenever my fiance tried to do something they didnt want him to (for example travelling together, celebrating Halloween etc) they always made a drama out of it in such a way that made him feel that he is either to obey otherwise they won't talk to him. He is fed up of being told what to do. And i believe that they shouldnt say our way or no way.


    Yes i agree that normal people shouldnt act like thia especially because of the ongoing pandemic.
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    Justine ·
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    Yes even me i can understand that she can be upset but i also think that their parents should have calmed the situation not side with the sister completely. Even his parents arent talking to us or asked him about his health. As you said we didnt plan for this.


    We live in Malta. June was never an option as my fiance didnt want to get married in hot weather. April could have been an option but the venue only gave us availabilities in May 2022. Our wedding is planned to be in the morning and both indoors and outdoors depending on the weather. May is a better month for this option.
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    Just Said Yes May 2022
    Justine ·
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    Good luck with the wedding prepartions and i am sorry you had to postpone as well.


    No families are coming from abroad as we all live locally. So no travel related expenses. Yes i agree with you people quickly ask you to accommodate them but they dont do it easily when it is asked of them.
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    Just Said Yes August 2014
    Eve79 ·
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    Hi Justine! By "emotionally unhealthy", I mean do they: violate boundaries, make things all about them, and/or only contribute negativity to a situation? Do you never feel at ease around them?


    I realize it is tough when it is your family. But i believe they need to be more understanding. There is no reason for them to treat you or your fiance this way.
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