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Postponement/ New Date Annoucements

Jenn, on August 16, 2020 at 6:14 PM Posted in Planning 0 8

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Hi 👋
My wedding was 5/1/20, when we decided to move the date we had already sent out invitations ($300 fml) with rsvp cards. We quickly mailed out a “new plan” announcement to everyone with our new 9/5/20 date. Well... in late June we made the decision to postpone again due to new county restrictions banning weddings. However, this time I sent email announcements via TheKnot to everyone letting them know we postponed again to 2/13/21.

I had heard from some of my moms friends that the email either didn’t arrive or was in junk mail. So I asked my MIL to reach out to their side of the family and let them know the new plan. Well, as it turns out (I am so annoyed) someone made a comment the other day to her that they were no longer invited to the wedding. For some reason she played dumb (not she why, she knew they were on the list) and said she wasn’t sure about the details. But apparently people on their side also didn’t get the email and she never freaking told them like I asked her to. My fiancé came home and we got into an argument because he want to send something out again a postponement announcement via mail or another email. I don’t feel like we need to spend more money on cards and stamps, his mom should have just communicated with everyone like I asked her to. Instead, now there’s drama because people think they were uninvited and we were rude by not saying anything. I plan on sending paper invitations with RSVPs again when we get closer to the date. But as everyone knows, these things aren’t cheap! Between printing and stamps we have spent a lot already.
Anyway, I wanted to see what your thoughts were. Should we sent another announcement in the mail? Do you think it’s tacky if I send a text to each family? I don’t see the point in email because clearly that didn’t work once already.
Anyway, open to advice here? Any 2nd time postponement brides out there? How did you announce?
Note: ALL of our mail, emails etc have had our wedding website link where we have told everyone to go there for updates.

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Latest activity by Jenn, on August 16, 2020 at 11:03 PM

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· on August 16, 2020 at 7:01 PM
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That's so annoying about your fmil! Since you're going to send out real invitations eventually and you've already let them know about the postponement, I think texting each family is fine. You're basically just letting them know that they will still be invited even though they didn't get that information from your last two attempts.
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Jenn · on August 16, 2020 at 7:05 PM
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Thank you! I’m thinking of doing a WhatsApp group with his side and sending just something simple.
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Elizabeth · on August 16, 2020 at 7:51 PM
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So it's your wedding. It's your responsibility and only yours (and your FH's) to announce it. What your FMIL did or didn't do is irrelevant because it wasn't her responsibility. Anyone she would have informed would have been a favor, but not really something she owed you. So yeah, your FH is right. It sucks that you have to shell out more money, but it really is your responsibility to inform all your guests no matter what side of the family they're on.
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Sexypoodle · on August 16, 2020 at 7:53 PM
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How about obtain the phone numbers of those family members and reach out to them directly? Explain what occurred and that they are certainly still invited. Apologize for the mix up/technical issues and express how happy you’ll be to celebrate with them in February. It’s better to take charge of your wedding firsthand versus your information being shared via the MIL or anyone else.
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Sexypoodle · on August 16, 2020 at 7:59 PM
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We had already sent save the dates. So, we text cute “postcard” postponement announcements to each guest individually. It was fast, free and efficient because it went straight to each guest and not to spam. However our change the date cards with the new date/info are being mailed. Du to us making changes, we had to do whatever necessary to get the info to guests.
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Jenn · on August 16, 2020 at 8:01 PM
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That’s a good idea, maybe I’ll do that. I don’t want to call these people because I don’t know them. Trying to get my FH to do anything for the Wedding is like pulling teeth. I know in order to get it done I’ll have to do it myself. Sending a text postcard might make it less awkward since I don’t know them.
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Krista · on August 16, 2020 at 10:59 PM
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When we had to cancel I spent the whole day tearfully calling and texting my family/friends. My fiancé had to do his side. If he wants his people to get the message he needs to make sure it happens and deals with it! All of this is too much to do alone! Definitely don’t spend more money on it!
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Jenn · on August 16, 2020 at 11:03 PM
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UPDATE:
I had my fiancé reach out to them. He created a WhatsApp group and sent this. It all worked out and I feel much better. Thanks for the feedback everyone!
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