Postponement fb Announcement?

I guess the FB section didn't show? Let me try again:

It's with heavy hearts that Joe and I have decided to postpone our big day. But, we must think of the health and safety of our friends and family during this time.

If you received a Save the Date, please keep an eye out for a Change the Date in the coming weeks. We hope everyone is staying safe- we're sending our love!

I understand how overwhelming this is right now, but as is always the case, I think a FB post has a strong risk of way overshooting your intended audience. It potentially hurts the feelings and raises questions from those who didn't receive an STD and possibly misses people who were invited but don't really pay much attention to FB. I'd probably try a more focused approach like sending an email and/or text message directly to all those who were actually invited. I'm so sorry about your having to postpone. You might also enlist someone to help you, if there are individuals who need to be called -- maybe FH, a parent, or close friend. Good luck!

I wouldn't post anything anywhere that people who are not invited to the wedding will be able to see. I realize calling everyone is a pain, but unless you have a wedding only group, I wouldn't post to facebook.

View Quoted Comment The only people not invited on FB is cousins- who we've already addressed. A lot of my friends have postponed and they've all noted it on FB. It's. Weird time.

View Quoted Comment I tried enlisting family to help- and they were of no assistance 😂


Unfortunately, we've had to do everything on our own from the start- no family helped with planning or financials.
No one should be offended. The only people not invited that have ANY reason to be offended would be cousins, who were not invited to begin with (BIG families and not financially possible). And we've already addressed them.
Idk...should I just send out Change the Dates asap then?

I would send this as a private message either through fb messenger (individual not group) or text. So sorry you’re going through this!

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I'm so sorry you don't have any/much support.... If at all possible, I'd try to get something out quickly via email/text or FB messenger as a pp suggested. It doesn't have to be long -- you can do as many as possible as a BCC email and/or a group text or message, and when necessary just cut & paste the message from one format to another. That way people know ASAP that the planned October event will not happen, and then you can take your time getting out the new Change of Date cards. Personally, I'd probably do the Change cards after your October elopement and then include that you had a private ceremony, but can't wait to celebrate with your guests next summer. I'd be concerned that if you let people know ahead of time (except for perhaps extremely close family/friends), you run the risk of people wanting to attend and/or give you opinions you might not want. If there is anyone like a grandparent or someone else who may not be tech savvy enough for email or text, I'd plan on making a few phone calls. You can plan out a "script" and make it clear you're not up to a big discussion just now, but wanted to make sure they knew about the change. Hang in! I'm so sorry you're going through this!

I agree with other PP here. I think the FB post could cause problems because there’s no guarantee that everyone would see it.

If you are sending change the dates, there’s no need to make an announcement on social media. If you have a wedding website, that would be the only internet update you would have to make. I made 4 phone calls, save the dates went out, website was updated and everyone was informed. Good luck to you!

We also just made the decision to postpone our reception but still get married on our day. Personally, I’m planning a FB post AND change the dates, but because we have some people flying as well, we’re also contacting them separately to ensure that if they miss the post they don’t book flights.
My post is going up in the morning, reading:
“HI- WEDDING UPDATE!After MUCH deliberation, and out of an abundance of caution and concern for our friends and family, Logan and I have made the difficult decision to postpone a portion of our wedding. COVID can’t stop us though!We’re still planning a very small ceremony in October, and hope you’ll join us next year to celebrate!If you received Save the Dates/Invites, be on the lookout as “change the dates” will be coming soon to inform you of the new date! We’re just waiting on confirmation from all vendors that this new date works. 💕We know this is a huge bummer, TRUST ME. 🥴We apologize for any inconvenience and thank you for your understanding!“Sorry you have to go through this, it really does suck! Good luck!

To add, most of our guests use fb but won’t go to a wedding website 🥴😂 they’re old and old fashioned so the fb post was our interim while I get the new date confirmed and change the dates ordered 🤷🏼‍♀️