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Postponed/cancelled Wedding has killed my joy for planning

Kayla, on April 20, 2020 at 9:57 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 5

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We recently made the decision to put our May 16 wedding on hold obviously due to COVID-19. The city in which wedding was to be held is still currently in a shelter in place extended until May 8th. Fiance expressed the desire to potentially elope at our chapel if the shelter in place is lifted on our original day. Go get married ( maybe our parents can attend, maybe not ). I haven't looked at or even tried to think about any wedding anything since postponing. It just killed the whole idea for me. Im sure all you planning a wedding for over a year know the stress and heartache that goes into putting together this kind of event and then a month before with everything pretty much set it was all ripped away. I just dont know how to get myself back in the spirit. I see so many stories of brides doing zoom weddings and making the best of the situation and maybe I am just not that type of person. I want to be able to hug my mother on my wedding day. Guess I just needed to vent and maybe some in my situation can relate.

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Latest activity by Kristin, on April 25, 2020 at 10:21 AM

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RaylaSan · on April 20, 2020 at 10:09 AM
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I understand what you mean, even though my wedding isn't till Feb. of next year a lot of my wedding planning really came into a huge hault. I can understand the frustration, no one can blame you. I would recommend eloping and then having a formal, larger celebration next year. Cheer up, i hope things get better.
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Isabella · on April 20, 2020 at 11:00 AM
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I’m there too. We’re set to get married May 16th and while we’re still planning on having a ceremony it feels like everything has been turned upside down and I’m crushed. Dramatic I know lol but true. We’re doing our best to make the best out of it but I’ve had so many days of feeling just totally down about it not being the wedding I’d imagined and dreamed and planned for so long. It’s hard to change your plans so last minute. I’m still trying to get back into gear of wedding planning but it’s been difficult.
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Kayla · on April 20, 2020 at 11:04 AM
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Its a totally bummer. I was just informed our officiant would be wearing a mask...I get it but just sucks all around. Totally feeling sorry for myself today!!!
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Madalena · on April 20, 2020 at 11:15 AM
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Yeah I can definitely relate and also feeling sorry for myself a lot lately lol. Our wedding was supposed to be this Saturday, we tentatively postponed back in March to July 11 but now we're probably pushing again to September. September will be our last effort. Some family have told us we should postpone to next year but we don't want to do that. We already planned this day for a year, I don't want to be in limbo for another. I've considered but don't really like the idea of getting married and then having a reception later. I also need to hug my mom on my wedding day. And the thought of not having my grandparents there is just not acceptable to me. My grandparents are a huge part of my life and wedding. They paid for the bulk and my one grandfather is supposed to walk me down the aisle, so I just can't imagine having my wedding without them. Now less than a week away from my original date I am really struggling.
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Kristin · on April 25, 2020 at 10:21 AM
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I am absolutely with you. In addition to postponing, our venue only has midweek dates available through the end of the year and I'm struggling to get excited about that plus debating what works best for our guests.
Our wedding date was today, April 25, 2020. The weather is perfect at Lake Tahoe. (Venting: it's not even 7:20am and I'm getting weary of the sympathy messages - however well-intentioned.) I just don't know how to make the day meaningful and positive with my fiance quarantining in another city because he was called to work disaster relief.
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